my youngest son is about to be 7yrs old. And when I request that he not do something, later he will not only do it but is answer to this is. ex: well at least i did not break it or tear it or hit someone. it is almost like since it could have been worse that makes it okay.
There are wonderful books about Boundaries (...for marriage, for teens...for kids) They are awesome! I haven't read the kids one, but it is on my book list to get. They are Christian based, but are well written. They are by Dr. Townsend and Cloud.
Hi,
I have the book Angela D is talking about. I could mail it to you if you would like. I never found the time to read it. Send mailing info. if your interested in it.
S.
There is a wonderful book called "How to Make Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours"
It is saving my sanity!!! Good luck!!
T. ,
You need to make him accountable for everything he does, and if he smarts off to you, because that is what it is. You try other disciplinary actions. Hope it helps! I had a child just like this and believe me it will get better, but don't let him get away with nothing. He sounds very strong willed.
Make sure he understands the principal behind the request. You are not asking him to refrain from destroying something, you are teaching him to respect your decisons and to value their importance. Because later in life, it is only going to get tougher.
Maybe you can all have a sit down family meeting discussing each other's roles in the family and how you can all show respect for each other.
We had this type of meeting every Monday night, we went over our chores for the week, or schedules, we read some scriptures, had a little family activity, had a dessert, and we all talked about things we needed to improve on and we all also got told what we were doing that others were proud of.
Its a good way to keep every one in check and for kids to understand who the authority in the house is, as well as feeling valued at the same time.
