Teaching a 7 Year Old Responcability

I would ask the teachers for weekley reports. You need to get in contact and work with the teacher to get her homework turned in. If she doesn't turn it in, take something of hers away or don't allow her to do something that she wants. If she does get a good report, make sure you reward her.
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Good luck,
C.

Hi J.,
Maybe you should talk to her teacher and see how she is during school. Do you check her homework to make sure it is done? It seems that there must be another reason she doesn't turn it in. Doesn't the teacher ask for all the homework to be turned in? I personally would give her a little down time after school just to burn some energy and then sit and do her homework with her. If you can't do that everynight make sure you check it before she gets to do anything else (TV, Nintendo ect.). If she is actually just forgeting to turn it in maybe talk to the teacher to help remind her. Good luck. I don't have to deal with this yet my oldest is 3.
Chris

J.,
I have not had to deal with the homework not being turned in because my 7 years teacher will ask for it. If it is not there or not done then her students have to complete it before recess. I think you to check in with the teacher to see what her system is in class and offer the recess suggestion because it doesn't sound like your daughter isn't doing her work it about getting it to were it needs to be.
I was having issues with my son forgetting his jacket and even not getting ready in time. I felt like all I did was yell to get us out of the house. Finally, I told him that it was his responsiblity to get everything together that he need by the time it was time to go. I would give him count down as to when I was leaving and that was with or without him. I only had to get in the car as if I was leaving without him once and now everything seem to go much easier. I guess what I am saying is try to just back off and make so it is no big deal to you and I think she might come around. I do think you should talk with her teacher but don't let your daughter know.

Good luck because I really think they are way smarter than we know.

As strange as it might sound, you might consider not punishing her at all, but rather creating a reward system for everytime that she DOES turn in work. Maybe even partner with the teacher for a reward at school (nothing too significant, but maybe something like being her special "runner" for taking notes to the office, being a helper for something, etc.) and with a positive report coming home, you can reward her, too. I recommend taking it slow at first. Small daily rewards. Then, when she can do a full week, reward by the week, not the day. This is something we had to work out with our son, too. Grueling and painful for the adults to work through, but worth it when the kids start doing the work and enjoying the benefits!

My daughter was the same way. My grandson (her son) who is nine now has had the same trouble for a while. We decided to start pinning a note on his coat when he gets on the school bus "turn in your homework". He was embarrased, but he got alot better about turning things in. We did also talk with his teachers asking them to make an extra effort to flat out ask him...."where's your homework Anthony". It's really tough being a single mom with a full time job, but, if she sees you making an extreme effort she will realize how important it is to you that she prove her talents and abilities in school. She'll get it. Just might take some time. All the best to you. Renee'

Hi J., When I was in 7th Grade I did the same thing, I wouldn't hand in my Math homework, then I got my grade in(a big old F), my mom decided to go to school and talked with my teacher, what they foun dout was that I was doing my homework but that I wasn't handing it in cacause I thought I was doing everything wrong, so they decided after school I would get one on one help with my Math and that helped me. Maybe you can have a conference with her teacher and discuss options, I don't think grounding is an answer, it just may make her resentful, and it sounds like it surely isn't helping thuss far. Perhaps she doesn't feel that her homework is up to par and afraid of failing, and in her eyes it's better to not hand it in, then it is to not do well.

Good Luck, S.

Make sure their is good comunication between you and the teacher. I'd ground her until her homework is turned in...from her favorite thing. Maybe even have her stay in from recess and/or after school to do homework...until everything has been turned in. I'd also stop reminding her. She knows...and will need to take ownership if your not. As far as talent, have to thought about signing her up for a dance class?

It does sound like her homewark is done, but not turned in. If that is the case, I would ask the teacher to make her sit out recess whenever she fails to turn in her homework. With a child that likes to perform for people, as you describe of her, it sounds like recess is a big event in her day. It shouldn't take more than a couple of missed opportunities to play with friends to straighten her out.