Taking Things from Sibling

I don't have twins but I have kids that are close in age 3 kids in 32 months. I tell my almost 3 year old that once her sister puts it down then she can have it. That is the rule if you put it down then it is fair game. My 3 year old will watch intently until her sister will set what she wants down and will go snatch it. My 18 month old is still learning this so I usually end up taking things away from her when she swipes things for her sister's hand or even the baby. She is really bad though at swiping so bad they call her swiper (from dora) at daycare. I am hoping she will learn things too. I try to point out to her when the older sister sets something down she wanted to go over and get it.

i can kinda see where you are coming from...i have 3 year old twin boys then i have another son who just turned 2...they are constantly takin stuff away from each other nd fighting...i make them give it back and say sorry...it seems to work for now...

I pretty much had to go from doing the discipline/warning thing and then taking it away (which had very slow to no results) to no warnings, just taking it.

As soon as my daughter takes the toy away from my young son, we say "No," then take it right out of her hands. She cries and says "But...blahbidiblah." And we say "No, you never take things from other people, you need to let them play with it. They had it first and you need to share."

And after the water works and the fit (if there is one) then we give it back to her and tell her to give it back to her brother and apologize. And she does. If she refuses to do so, then we punish her for not making it right (like taking something totally uninvolved from her that she loves and saying she'll get it back once she can show us she can be a good girl).

It's human nature to possess and protect things, to "own" something, but it is a taught response to share and make good with the situation or person you wrong (at least as far as I can tell). So, after several times of giving it back and having to apologize and watch her younger brother get the toy back and play with it, she just stopped taking things from him. Works pretty good.

I have 2 year old twin girls. They usually play pretty well together, but of course, there's always fighting over something at one time or another. I usually do what the previous person said, I give them a few chances with warnings, time outs, etc. and if they are still fighting over the item, its mine for the rest of the day, no matter who had it first. They usally cry for a minute, then each find something else to do. Hope you find something that works for you!

Read this book before your third comes ;): http://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-T...

It's helped me tons with my three. HTH.

N., they are 2 year olds. They do not really even begin to understand that taking something from the other sibling is wrong. That is when you take whatever it is and show the twin who is takingthat object away,that you can play together with itand hand it back and forth between them

This may not be help, but when my boys fight over anything and they don't respond to other "disciplines" I take the toy away. It may not seem fair to the child who is behaving, but the one who wasn't gets the picture fast.