S.M.
I don't think we should guilt trip our kids. But I do think we need to teach them empathy. They don't stay little forever. Here's what I'm talking about.
I've always been superhuman to my family. I rise up before anyone, sometimes go to bed later than any of them. I get up in the middle of the night multiple times to care for children. I earn a considerable amount of money while still doing all the stay at home mom duties on top of it. I've done it sick, tired, on little sleep, pregnant several times, and I've managed with a debilitating disease that I am always looking for alternative cures or meditating for.
Well this mom wishes I had taught my family a little empathy a long the way. Yesterday I was so dizzy in the morning that I started throwing up. I remained dizzy for quite awhile and then I was tired. So they decided to watch a movie in the living room, keep an eye on the 3 children in the house while I rest. Only they were extremely loud the whole time. I really didn't get any rest because I kept having to come out and find out if someone was going to get hurt because of the way they were carrying on. Someone turned the counter top roaster up on the highest setting and that would have burned if I didn't go back out there and figure that out. THEN... even though it was THEM that took the dog out and kept going outside for various things, they left the door unlocked and my grandson went out to the front porch.
They decided just before that they were going to leave me here with my grandson and my two 5 year old daycare kids, even though I still felt rough. They didn't ask me how I felt about it. So when the grandson gets outside they all come in and YELL AT ME. He went out there because he didn't want to be left home and because THEY left the door unlocked! He can't reach the locks. So I promptly told them they should take the boy and leave me with the two 5 year olds that can play happily without me chasing them every 5 seconds.
TRULY... All this psychology crud we keep filling our minds and homes with is for the birds. We need to get back to some nuts and bolts basics and teach our children some respect. The way they behaved yesterday was NOT COOL. Oh and by the way... The worst noise makers and offenders was my 10 year old daughter, 20 year old daughter (mom to grandbaby), her boyfriend and my husband. My 5 year olds are easy. So only AFTER I told them all to shove it did they take the grandson and all of themselves to my older daughters house ALL EVENING giving me some real peace and quiet. My two 5 year old children and I were fine.