I am doing surrogacy for a very close family friend. I am about 13 weeks along. I am really excited for the family yet, i find myself wondering if i can do this? I wanna try to get hooked up with some sort of private counseling for myself as well as my partner. Im just kinda trying to not get attached as it is very hard notto. Just looking for maybe a surrogant mother to talk with or someone who can relate.
I would suggest looking to see if you have a community mental health place , and see if they can help you find a counsler. Or ask your OB at your next visit, they can probably help you.
M. you are doing such a good deed for your friend. It takes lots of courage to do something for others. I really appreciate this. My sister also had a baby with surrogacy, her surrogate is also a very nice lady. We hire her from a clinic, but she has taken care of our child very well. Moreover, the clinic takes the whole responsibility of the surrogate. I used to visit her when I got time. Whenever I met her, I always feel like she is so amazing that she is doing this for my sister, however, she gets paid for it. But I appreciate it. I hope you will also carry that baby with care & Indeed its very hard but always remember you are doing such an amazing thing for others. So Good Luck... Kudos to you...
M.,
hi my name is J. p i was only 18 when i had my daughter and didn't know what to do so i got a counseling to talk to my partens and me about what to do. the counseling told me that i would be a good mom i have my daughter today and she is all ready six years old if you ever want to talk just type me
Hi M. L,
My name is M. Scofield and I have been a Traditional Surrogate twice now and looking for my 3rd. The best piece of advice is to think of the child as not being your own. You are just the babysitter. :) I had a fee with my surrogacies and it was a good distraction. I spent alot of my time shopping or making plans what my fee would be used for. I also made my family was complete before getting into surrogacy, but the husband (soon to be ex) decided he wanted one more after my 1st Surrogacy. There are many Surrogate mom groups out there for counseling, even if just online, they can help. I have never belonged to any of them or used any of them myself, but many surrogates do. If you did a clinical AI, the clinic should have a good referral for you.
I hope that helps. Good Luck and remember that being a Surrogate Mother for a couple is one of the most loving & caring things you can do in life! :)
M. S.
Hi M.!
Try this...go to the second page on Requests and Responces. Look for a request posted by Melissa S. on Dec. 05. She got some great responses and maybe you can hook up with some of these moms...
Just Me!
S.
