S.W.
I hope that TurtleDove never has this situation come up in her life so that she can "eat" her words.
Not all women who become surrogates are destitute. The womem that do this do so of their own free will. They want to make a difference in the life(ves) of someone who has a medical issue and cannot conceive. Women throughout time have helped other women and some have had children and have given them away becuase they could not feed or care for them but someone they knew would long before adoption was legal. I don't want to get on my soapbox.
Back to the question. Be a good friend to your friend let her talk and you listen. Adoption is not a bad thing. My first child was adopted because we (hubby and I) wanted to know what the requirements were to become adoptive parents and had a child within six months. It was meant to be. We jsut barely made teh two year married requirement and they gave him to us to raise and he was six weeks old. Today that child will be 39 in September. Our bio daughter is 35.
Have your friend with the state children's agency. She maybe pleasantly surprised.
My best wishes and good thoughts for her and you.
The other S.
PS My hat is off to all of the women who have and will continue to bring forth life this way.