Yep! that's a consequence of having several children. I am so pleased to tell you that I had three beautiful healthy children (vaginally) and got the incontenence from those wonderful experiences, you know it's one of those "war wounds" that you can proudly show off!!
I was never embarrassed to talk about this to Anyone!! my hubby was though. He never understood how proud I was of myself!
Well, I had this problem for TEN years! I tried everything, Kegel exercises, biofeedback, etc. nothing worked.
My very qualified gynecologist offered me the new bladder surgery. It's quite different from the traditional surgery they used to make. They would cut the bladder and tighten it back. He said it is not permanent. One of my friends had it and went back to incontinence only after 5 yrs after; her obesity did not help to keep the bladder in place.
I had the new surgery where they place a tension tape (tension free vaginal tape - TVT) for stress incontinence. This tape is made out of a certain kind of mesh that is positioned under the urethra like a sling or a hammock to support it and return it to normal position.
I also had like an extra procedure to assure that the bladder and urethra were really tight (with some stitches to the upper leg)the cuts were really small and disappear in matter or days.
I had no complications and did not have to use a catheter at home. The recovery was fabulous (It was very unconfortable for days ( I can't deny it, but it was worth it). I only regret not doing it years before!!
be sure to see a very qualified surgeon or gynecologist, I do recommend the surgery, quality of life is very important.
Good luck and be proud of yourself!!