M.L.
Please excuse me while I giggle. Quietly.
When my children were little, we all sat at church together. I always worried because they could NOT sit still and be quiet! They whispered and fidgeted and fussed. I'm afraid I was a fussbudget, too. I would have done better to model a better attitude. I was so concerned what people might think of ME! I was sure the children disturbed everyone around us. Somehow I was afraid we might get kicked out or something. Ha! Years later, I found out that other people were thinking, "How does she do it with her children? They seem so well-behaved!" Huh?
So don't worry too much what other people may think or what other families may look like. Introduce yourself to that wonderful family you've noticed! You and that mama may end up exchanging stories!
You won't be able to pay really close attention at Mass for a while yet. But that's all right. God is still there, and He *loves* kids in His house!
For this weekend, bathe the children the night before; lay out their clothes the night before; put them to bed a little earlier, letting them know that Easter is a special day, so you're running on a special schedule; get up and get out the front door at least fifteen minutes ahead of your usual schedule (so there won't be last-minute rushing and because it's going to be harder to find a parking space at church); plan something really fun for Sunday afternoon after the dressy clothes come off.
Depending on the age, let them draw quietly (bring scratch paper and pencils) or have ONE quiet toy or look at ONE picture book. Ask your older children to sing the hymns along with the congregation. Also, ask them to watch for one special part of the Mass (you choose what part) and to let you know when they see that happen. Make your daughter a handkerchief doll (it's probably online somewhere) right there in the pew, and let her play with it quietly. Kids are not adults; most of a service will go over their heads, but they can BEGIN to learn how to be quiet and appreciate what's happening and why. You supplement that with teaching at home during the week.
One of the many things I did wrong was to expect mine to act too grown up when they were incapable of doing it. Set lower expectations for their behavior than for your own: whispering is OK, especially if they want to know something about the Mass. Wiggling is OK, but try not to attract attention to yourself. Do your best to respect all the nice folks sitting around us who are here to worship God, not to see them. No fighting, pinching, or nosebleeds, and I don't care whose fault it is!
Here's an old, old joke: A priest was always amazed that one of his parishioners, a single mother with six young children, was always there at the *early* Mass, with her kids all clean-faced, hair combed, and nicely dressed - a little rumpled, perhaps, but still looking good. Finally he asked her how in the world she managed it. She whispered to him, "I dress them the night before!"
Hope your Easter will be blessed!