L.B.
S.,
It is scary when one of your children are starting school. You should talk to the school about how they have things set up. When my kids were in school the kindegarteners had their own bathrooms and the older kids weren't allowed to use them.
It's hard for them to "get it" but you HAVE to encourage your son to grasp life. We should try our best not to put our "fears" into our kids that aren't necessary things for them to worry about. You know the saying "most things we worry about never come to pass". So try your best to educate but not intimidate him about school. All kids are a little aprehensive going to a new place and not knowing anyone. But it's our job to help are children to be ready for things to come in life.
My boys are older now but I found out like in 2nd grade that one of them never used catsup at school because he couldn't open the packet. :) How funny. So I taught him how so he could have catsup.
As for the bathroom. Just tell him to do the best job he can to clean up and wash his hands. I told my boys if they ever had an accident go quietly to the teacher and ask to go to the office and the office will call me.
And you know the bullying thing you can't cover every challenge that will come up. The teacher and school should be your support and I took my concerns to the priciple and teacher. They were great.
My final advice sit with your son when he comes home and chat over a snack. It's a lovely habit that you will treasure as they grow older. I have friends that say their sons don't hardly talk to them at all. I ask questions. Alot of questions. And they answer them. That's the only way you'll know what's going on...really. Ask questions that don't always get answered with yes or no. Like "what was your favorite part of today? What was the worst part?"
The first day I had my sons so excited about riding the bus and going to school. that they rode the bus and I followed in the car and then walked them into their class ... so sad for me - they were fine. They loved school. I cried on the way home. It's the beginning of the separation... I thank the Good Lord that He gives us 18ish years to get a grasp on the "letting go" process. He'll be fine Love him, and Pray for him every day.
L.