Start Potty Training?

Updated on March 18, 2008
A.W. asks from Charleston, SC
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Recently my 21 month old boy has started taking off his diaper before he goes poo. He usually does it when he wakes up from his nap. When I go up to get him his diaper is off and i have a nice mess to clean up out of his crib. He also takes it off after he pees in it. I have started keeping his pants/shorts on, but he figured out how to take them off. Does this mean he is ready to start potty training? I hadn't even considered it and wasn't planning on it until he was at least 2 years old, especially since I have heard boys usually are a little later in potty training.

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Thank you so much for all the wonderful responses! It is so great to have such an awesome support system here! I talked with my husband and we are definately going to give it a try! Also, I was wondering...... I have heard that boys should learn to pee sitting down. Are they supposed to learn to pee sitting down first, then standing? Again, thanks for the responses!

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S.G.

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As far as peeing sitting down, that's what I plan on doing with my son. He is 22 months and show some intrest in the potty so I got him one of those rings that goes on the toilet seat. To me, until they are better skilled at knowing when they have to go to the bathroom and have learned how to have control and aim, sitting is fine. Especially since it won't be for a few more years till he is tall enough to pee standing without having to be on a stool!!

~Good luck!
S.

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K.M.

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go ahead and start training ,he is ready I potty train at 9months girl or boy . I am a day care provider.

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B.B.

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wow... a boy showing early signs of potty traing!... wish my sons would've done this too...lol... feel blessed that your son dislikes the feeling of a messy or wet pamper!... my advice, as long as you have him on a regular schedule morning, noon, and night... go for it!... every morning when he wakes up, or before he wakes up, you should go into his room, get him out of bed and sit him on his potty chair... he'll get used to using it in the morning and want to do it more throughout the day... try to put him on the potty at least once every hour or two until he actually developes a "restroom" time... and make sure you place him on it at least twice within the hour before he goes to bed everynight... next thing you know, he'll either let you know when he has to go or let you know when he's finished... i don't keep my granddaughter's potty in the restroom, i keep it in the room with her so that she can access it quicker... we just go into the restroom afterwards to wash our hands... i keep a small container of babywipes next to her potty so that she can get into the habit of properly wiping herself from front to back afterwards... if your son spends a lot of time outside of his room, like the livingroom or familyroom, try keeping his potty where he can get to it quickly to avoid upsetting him when he has accidents... be patient and good luck!!!

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C.D.

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My first child, a boy, was easier to potty train than my second child who was a girl. I don't think you can go by that. It sounds as if he is ready to start using the potty, but you will have to stay on top of him to accomplish this, if he has already figured out how to get out of his diaper. "Pull-Ups" are probably not going to be very useful in this case.
C.

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D.H.

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That's great! He's telling you that he does not like to feel wet and yucky. Break out the potty and start letting him sit on it. My daughter did the same thing at 22 months and I started taking her to the bathroom with me and showing her how mommy goes in the big girl potty. I also tried putting her diaper on backwards, which worked for a little while. After she figured out how to remove the one on backwards, I had to resort to clear packing tape to keep the diaper on. She eventually gave up on taking it off herself. She still is not potty trained, but at least the diapers stay on for now while we work on it. Good luck. D. H.

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B.I.

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Yep! He's READY. Go get your potty chair.

Train early savediapers, save MONEY!

HUgs,
B.
deaffmommie

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M.R.

answers from Myrtle Beach on

Sounds like the perfect time to start! My oldest son had similar habits as your son and he was completely trained by 22 months. My youngest son on the other hand held out on me and was completely trained until a month before his 3rd birthday. Each child is different but it seems like your son is giving you all the signs that he is ready! Good luck!

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L.D.

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Sounds like he's ready to begin. My sons began showing interest before 2 years of age as well. Have a great weekend. L.

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J.W.

answers from Atlanta on

Hey there! It would not hurt to try. It doesn't seem like he wants to be in a messy diaper. That is a great sign. I have two girls myself, but my mom has told me that both of my brothers were trained right around 2. I would get a potty and just let him sit on it.

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T.C.

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I started potty training my son at 20 months. One sign that he was ready, is that he would wake up dry from his naps. He stopped using diapers at 24 months. My son likes to pee standing up. When we were training, I would take him to the toilet every hour or so, and he would pee. He poops every morning, so each morning after breakfast, he would sit on the potty and I would read a book to him and he would poop. During the day, we would do the same, if I smelled gas coming from him. It is possible to potty train a boy before he is 2 years old--you may want to try it now, and see if it works for you and your son.

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B.K.

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Dear A.,
He is definately saying, "Show me what to do please. I don't want this stuff touching me any more." For my daughter this happened at 14 months. She would bring me a diaper as soon as she had a poo or a wet. It was so cute, and being a new mom at the time, I was glad that she basically let me know when it was time for her.
It sounds like your little ones time. They all decide in their own times and it is up to us to watch for and read the clues. Good job, Mom. You called it!
Best wishes,
Grandma Bev

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K.F.

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My 22 month old daughter does the same thing. I don't think it means their ready to potty train. At least for her anyway. I've put her diaper on backwards and she can't seem to get it off. Hope this helps!

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P.S.

answers from Atlanta on

Hello. You son is giving you the signal that he does not like the feeling on being wet and in a poo diaper.
Yes start introducing him to the potty. When he wakes immediate take him to the potty. You have the time he's going (when he wakes) so the signal is there. All you need to do is follow through. Children train at different ages. Make it a special time so he will enjoy the experience.
It worked for my son hope it works for yours.
When I wake I usually go straight to the bathroom. Your son has the pattern down. Go for it.

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M.F.

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I have three boys and I made a mistake although each child is different with my first child he was taught to pee standing it's been an ordeal to teach him to sit and poop. I think it's less confusing to learn to sit so they will master both on the potty My second child learned to stand and pee also but did sit to poop and was ok with it. My third and final boy we taught to sit for both he now after over a yr is aloud to stand to pee and will sit with no problem sit and poop. After all my husband and I have went through and all we have is three boys we suggest to parents with boys to teach them in the beginning to teach boys to sit for both because as you well know sometimes after you pee you fee the urge to poop and it's easier to pick up on your bodies feelings while sitting and trying to do both when you are young it can be very confusing to try to understand your body and it's urges (reading them) make your life and his easier and have him sit...dad too for training purpose's. Best of luck to you.

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S.N.

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Hi A. yes your little man is trying to say "Mom I want to go potty".The thing that helped me out when I had to potty train all three of my kids was I let them pick out there on potty and the loved the idea because I made it into a game.So good luck.

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C.R.

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Sure, why not?? Hi there. I'm a teacher (19 years) of Older 2's and I also teach a Mixed threes class.
Most of the children that I begin with in September are trained. I have a few stragglers but for the most part, these are fast start kids that have better things to do than mess their outfits up. All of the children have to be three by January 31st to qualify for this class.
My theory is, if you can "discuss" the issue as to whether or not you use the toilet or use the diaper, then they are ready to give it a try.
I also had 4 children myself, two of each.
The boys had the most fun learning to go in the toilet. I used Fruit loops and Cheerios to get them to hit the floating target, etc. They loved to flush to see if they could beat the water down the pipe. That may be harder now with the newer toilets that flush instantly. All of my children enjoyed a variety of reading material, kept by the toilet for them to "enjoy" while concentrating on the task at hand.
One thing that you need to prepare yourself for is the frustrations of having success when a failure will occur. IT HAPPENS! Encouragemnet! Encouragement! is always best. "Next time, I know that you will try harder to make it to the potty". Boys are usually harder to "tell" you that they need to go. I tell my parents to set aside two weeks that they are going to accomplish this. You will spend a LOT of time in that small room with them. Of course, the child loves this attention. I never ask one of my students if they Need to go. I tell them that it is their turn to go. What little boy wants to put down their favorite toy and go to the bathroom?
I always let them take it with them, place it on my "potty shelf" where they can see it waiting on them and then they know it will be there when they are through. Little boys also have very little "get there" time as the sensation to go is on them before their brain can process that they need to headfor the bathroom. That is where accidents happen. A timed schedule, every two hours, works pretty well, unless they are drinking more than usual.
Teachers believe that children should be bowel trained first. If he is only urinating in the potty, PLEASE do not tell yourself or his teacher that he is trained!!
I hope this helps. Kudos to you for wanting to give this an early try. IF it doesn't work out NOW, consider giving it some time and trying it again in summer. Duct tape will keep that diaper on, by the way, if you are dealing with that issue.
Good luck,
Cathy Robinson
Woodstock, GA

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C.A.

answers from Savannah on

Hi A.~
WAHOO!!! Sounds to me like your little tike is ready. As we all know each child is different and my 2 boys are prime examples. My oldest potty trained in one day at 23 months, now my second took about 2 weeks before he got the hang of it and he was 2 and a half.

One thing I HIGHLY recommend is reading "Toilet training in less than a day". (sorry, I don't have access to the book right now or I'd give the author too) It's a short book that can be read quickly and is soooo worth it. It's how I trained my oldest in a day. One of the best parenting help books ever!

Congratulations and best wishes,
C.

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M.W.

answers from Savannah on

yep, he's ready to go, to the potty that is. my youngest daughter did that too. the crib messes were the most fun to clean up, i have pictures to prove it, lol. the trick is to catch them before they take it off. my first daughter completed her training at about 18 months, my second a little after age 2. so kids are all different. taking his diaper off shows that he knows that there is a mess in it. i talked to my daughter and explained to her that if she went in the potty instead of her diaper than she wouldn't have to take it off, there would be no mess, and she could wear big girl panties like mommie and sissie. letting her wear those training pants with the plastic outsides or the extra thick panties made her feel important. it only took a few days for her to realize that the mess wasn't going to stay contained in those so she started asking to go to the potty. try talking to your son and show him the potty and let him watch you or his father go, once he gets the concept of where the mess is supposed to go, hopefully it'll all make sense to him. hope this helped. go ahead and start now.

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K.H.

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Sure! I have three sons, 7,4, and 2 years. Each was potty trained by 3. My youngest has been having bowel movements on the toilet since he was 13 months - only because he had such a hard time and it was easier for him to sit. I think your son seems uncomfortable in a wet/dirty diaper, and you should try to take advantage of it. It's never easy to do, but if he's interested. . .go for it!
K. H

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A.K.

answers from Atlanta on

A.,
As a former preschool teacher for some 17 years, I can tell you that the behavior your son is exhibiting is not unusual. To save yourself alot of time cleaning up "messes", simply put his diaper on backwards. He shouldn't be able to reach the tape to pull it off. It is absolutely ok to also let him know that this behavior is unacceptable. At 21 months old, I certainly don't think he is too young to slowly begin introducing the potty seat, and if he seems interested, keep up with trying to potty train him. Good Luck!

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N.K.

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I would say yes.Is he still on the bottle? you may also need to make sure you set him on the potty right before putting him to bed. Teach him to say potty? If he can say mommy he can say potty. You will have to start putting him on the potty right before bed and believe it or not you may have to set your clock a little early so that you can get him up and take him to the potty. Hopefully you will be able to bet him to the punch.

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K.S.

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I am a mom of 5 and yes this is a sign that he's ready to potty train. If you push him too hard though he will not want to. If you see him pulling at his diaper or taking it off tell him lets try to potty like a big boy(or poo-poo) and make it a fun "game" of getting to the toilet. If you can't get him to keep his diaper on when he's in bed use a pull-up. It worked for mine. He might take to training very easy. Most kids are scared of pooping in the toilet, but even when he just "tries" praise him. It will work in time. A couple of my kids were scared of the potty, but I bought a kids potty insert for the regular toilet and it worked for them, so you just have to find what works for your baby boy. Hope this helps! K.

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