Would you say it is tacky to have a sprinkle for yourself? Is it proper etiquette?
In my opinion it is tacky as hell to have one for yourself. It screams come give me things.
My preference is to have something like a "Sip & See" after the babies are born. Host an event where people get to actually meet this kids (sorry, i had twins my second time around) and you supply light refreshments. If people want to bring gifts for your new addition, they will, but it doesn't scream Give Me Presents! like a shower or even a sprinkle does.
Congratulations, and good luck.
What it tells people is "I am poor, too poor to buy things for myself, so you must give me things, I am poor, I don't have a single friend that cares if my baby has enough, take care of me...I am helpless".
If you do get to have a shower of any kind it is a gift, not a thing you give yourself. If you don't have things for your baby there are options of how to go about getting those things for yourself. There are clothing rooms where donations are given then handed out according to a persons need, shelters often have things donated for those living there and if they have an abundance will part ways with things, advertise/post to your friends and ask if any of them have any baby items they are wanting to get rid of, ask relatives with kids if they have anything they want to send your way too.
I hope that you have some friends that will have a shower for you. It is always a lot of fun to have time with people who care about you.
My daughter got mad at me over and over because I would not throw her a shower...she has 7 children and after each one would lose or just leave all their things in a house she was moving out of or losing for not paying rent. Expensive things too. Then she'd want me to supply everything to her or have a shower. You get one, then no more. If there are extenuating circumstances such as years and years between births then you could have another one, if you moved and had a new life, a new job, etc...and your work friends wanted to do an office party thing for the baby, that kind of exceptions.
I hope you are able to get the things you need and to have lots of friends to help you celebrate the happy occasion.
Super tacky. It's basically asking for gifts and saying that no one wanted to throw you a shower.
If you are asking whether it's appropriate to throw yourself a party where gifts are given, then no, that's in bad taste. You don't make yourself a party to ask for gifts. Tacky tacky. You aren't owed a shower of any type, so if someone does not throw one for you, you don't get to have one.
I think every baby deserves a party...shower, sprinkle, open house, whatever.
I think it is tacky to do it yourself. If someone offers, then go for it.
A sprinkle (for those who keep asking) is a shower for the mom who already has children. The gift items are usually dipes, wipes, and clothes.
If you want to do something special for baby, host an open house after baby is born. I like the "Sip & See" idea. You are not to ask or expect gifts, though.
I was going to have shower for myself if no one would host it for me. I ended doing the invitations and having it at my house. No one is required to bring gifts. What is wrong with celebrating your baby? If people think it's tacky then they don't have to come right? I just don't worry so much about what other people think. People who mind don't matter and people who matter don't mind!
I think any 2nd shower / sprinkle ( especially one given yourself) is in bad taste. I'm one of those people that hates attention, though. I'm jelous of people that can handle all the attention being on them gracefully. So , take my opinion for what it's worth.
oh my goodness A.!! these people are just so wronggg!! if u want to throw a sprinkle, i say go for it!! this 2nd 3rd or 4th baby etc deserves it like your 1st child!!
It is never appropriate to throw a shower or sprinkle for yourself. The point of them is to shower (or sprinkle) the mother with gifts, not to celebrate the baby (who isn't even here to be celebrated, anyway). So throwing one for yourself is essentially asking for gifts. I would never go to up to a friend and say, "Hey, I haven't been given enough things for this baby, so I wanted to tell you I'm registered here and there." Throwing a shower for yourself is essentially doing the same, just not in so many words.
It's appropriate for a host to ask for the mother's preferences for some things, but gifts (or showers, which are about giving gifts) are to be given freely, not because the person essentially asked for them.
If you want to celebrate the baby, throw something else -- a meet the baby party, a celebrate baby party, a baby BBQ ... call it something else and request no gifts. Then it can be about the baby without appearing tacky or offending others (btw, I have seen polls on this online and approximately 90% of those who responded said they thought throwing your own was tacky. So realize that, if you do, chances are an overwhelming majority of people will think it's in poor taste, even if they choose to come).
Sometimes friends and family assume someone else will throw a shower for you and it just doesnt happen. I say every baby deserves a celebration and party, but it might not be in the best taste to do it yourself. My suggestion is, talk to your best friend or closest family member, and ask if they would be interested in hosting a small gathering of friends and family. Let them know you want to help a lot so it wont be a big hassle for them, and keep it small. (5 or 6 guests)Dont get too elaborate or over the top expensive. Offer to pay for some things yourself, but let her be the host so you arent. You may find she was wishing she could do this for you to start with and just didnt know how to get started. If you lived near me, Id be honored to throw a shower for you. (o:
in helping, I mean, you complie the guest list, address invitations,stamp and mail, help make simple snacks, such as cake, or cookies, coffee, tea, set up the day of the shower, nothing big, just a table cloth and napkins, regular dishes are fine, a couple small gifts for a couple games you choose and supply the materials for, or skip the games, some dont like them at all, and stay to clean up, load dishwasher, put chairs back, and take down the decorations, if you even bother to have any. Make it easy for your friend, so she doesnt resent you for roping her into it later.
I say ask someone else to do it. Even your husband or close family member. good luck!
