Speaking of hitting.....any Proud Moments with Your Children Too?

My daughter gets to go to a lot of parties. She is in school and sports and little brother is not yet. I am so proud of her because (she can be a little self centered sometimes) she always asks if she can take something for her brother (cupcake or whatever) or she will share her treat bag with him.

We were at a party yesterday and my son was tired. He is almost 4, old enough to enjoy a party, but he just wanted to play inside. So, my daughter (6) was getting candy from the pinata and I asked her nicely if she would get a piece of candy for brother. She smiled and said, "I already got a bunch for us to share."

I was proud of her to be so thoughtful, at this age siblings usually have a love hate relationship and even though they have their moments, I know she really cares about him.

I just started a blog for this very reason. I was so tired of ending my day with "the kids fight constantly" "the house is a pig sty" "I didn't get this or that done" - I was just unhappy always focusing on the negative.

Sooo....as a response I started this blog - positivelymomstreet.blogspot.com - and I make a point to take 5 minutes at the end of each day to write down something GOOD that happened. Some days are more exciting than others - but in just the past week I was able to write down 3 or 4 positive things that happened EVERY DAY. It's all about focus and moving attention AWAY from the negative.

BTW _ I would have been very proud of my son too if he acted that way! :-)

What a great story!
I got goose bumps just reading it.

My Daughter takes Karate.
When a boy was hitting her, she automatically and by instinct, went into her stance and started 'blocking' the punches.
One after another.
Just like your son.
I was so proud of her.
This boy, was a family friend. But a real rough-housing boy.
But she defended herself, properly. Never hitting back. Just blocking.

Oh my gosh how amazing! Is it sad that I almost got choked up? haha.

So proud of you and the little dude! Way to be a good mom and awesome example for your little one!

I'm proud of your boy too!

Blessings....

That's so great! Good for him! And what a good karate school he must go to - some of them are not as good about emphasizing the self-defense part of the art. Sounds like they're teaching him right.

Well, recently my younger daughter (she's 5, and tiny for her age) was playing at my friend's house. My friend has kids who are 4 years (a very big 4 years at that) and 13 months. The older one is kind of a nightmare - totally out of control. Anyway, my daughter was near the baby, who was toddling along, and here comes baby's big brother barreling toward her running backward (so, totally unaware he was about to run over his baby sister). My daughter stepped in front of the baby, put her shoulder down, and executed a perfect rugby tackle on the big brother. She has been watching rugby with daddy every weekend all her life, and I guess some of it rubbed off on her. It was very cute, although we've had to warn her that it's not really socially acceptable to form tackle in other situations. However, she did keep the baby from getting trampled pretty effectively! (And for the record, they were on the grass, so nobody was hurt.)

WOW! I am SO impressed :-) I was watching a couple of kids and one was a two year old (same age as my son). He was really uncomfortable and sad when he first got here. The first few days, my son would walk over to him and give him a big loving hug when he seemed sad. It made me laugh and almost cry! My son tried to put his shoes on him and always checked to make sure he had his jacket on before we went outside.

Fast forward a few days and they were clawing at each other like cats. Oh well!

OOH I LOVE IT!!!! YOU GO!!!!

My boys are in Tae Kwon Do! My oldest son is a first don black belt. Two summers ago - we had a friend, who has some behavior problems, over for the day - they were playing on the computer - a timer so they each had the same amount of time on the computer and game - I was fixing dinner - the timer went off and the other boy yelled at my son to get off - he said "i'm finishing my turn/move and you'll get extra time" - that didn't work for the other boy - he proceeded to grab my son by his ears out of the chair -

my son yelled "MOMMY COME HERE" and then told the other child "I'm a black belt in Tae Kwon Do - DO NOT HIT ME" as soon as I heard that my heart raced - the other boy hit him - or at least tried to - my son defended himself with a great sweeper block that knocked the other boy off balance and his glasses off his head.

I was in the room and the other boy was stunned - as he forgot my son was a black belt...I separated them. The other boy was soon apologizing I'm SORRY!! I'm SORRY !! Thank you for not killing me! But overall - I'm VERY proud of my son for not over reacting either!!

I know he wasn't protecting someone else but he still did good!!!

The other thing he did was wwwwaaayyy back in Kindergarten - a little girl had had an accident and one boy was making fun of her - my son stepped up and said THAT IS NOT NICE! YOU NEED TO STOP. The girl was VERY grateful.

i don't have a story but i really liked yours

Wow,What a great kid you have !!!!

It sounds like your little guy is really learning the discipline part of martial arts! Congrats on having such a mature son!

I have posted this story on another question like this one, but it really was a proud moment for me. My daughter (10) and I had done some shopping in a store and decided we needed to go back to get a cart. She ran ahead of me to grab one and just as I came around the corner, I saw her pull a cart out and give it to an older woman who had just come in the door. It really made me proud to see what a caring young lady she is becoming.

Awesome! Kudos to BOTH of you! Beth, I'm with you :-)

oh man that's awesome!!! I'M proud of your little boy & he's not even mine! whatta great job you're doing mama!! :)
way to go!!! and way to go to your sweet 4 year old - whatta precious child!!

Thanks for sharing that wonderful story! I agree ... nice to hear the happy stories here, too.

My son is a good lil'guy (17 months). He does have the typical toddler melt downs, but he also love to pick up his toys and help me out. Today since the weather was actually beautiful, we were working out in our garden and he loved to try and get the dirt out of the grass. Just recently he started to willingly kiss us. That was melt my heart. But today was his first haircut. I thought it would be a full on disaster since he doesn't like to be around strangers and loves to be in my arms. But he just sat there. I did have my ipod and put on Little Einsteins, but he didn't care about it and just watched what the girl was doing. So proud!!

WONDERFUL STORY and you and hubby handled it SO WELL!! I don't have anything cool like that to tell but I have a 3 and 4 yo girl and we intend to put them both into karate next year. I think it builds confidence and self esteem and is not AT ALL violent. Your story totally reinforced me wanting to do this!

I'm a total softie for this. What awesome character he possesses to behave that way when he doesn't know you are watching!! I am very fortunate, I have an amazing 17 year old daughter who makes me proud everyday. Thanks for sharing!!

Wow! I'm just so impressed by your son's self-control! I'd be willing to bet he's learning the same attitude as you've tried to intill in him from his kung fu instructor. In which case, he's definitely in the right class!!!!

The cool thing was that the result was so much more effective than if he'd hit the bully. That kid'll never bother your son again!

Great story! Thanks for sharing :) My middle is almost 3, baby is 6 months. And the 3 yr old is always looking out for "his" little baby" Sibling love and loyalty is beautiful!

Wow! That's awesome! Your story made my day! Good for you and for your son!

What a proud moment for you to watch, that is great!! I love it that he was defending his little brother.

The lady asked the question..and clearly said she was asking about "hitting out of anger." Not classes, not self defense (which is what your son did), not playing....ANGER. Why did you get so riled up? She didn't say hitting in all cases is wrong. Nor was she saying self defense is wrong. I think we can ALL agree hitting out of anger, or uses violence when angry is wrong.

With that said, my 22 month old son is incredibly well-behaved and listens well. We were in a restaurant where they were very busy for an event and he sat and colored quietly while it took an hour for our food to arrive. There were kids much older misbehaving. I was proud that he did so well and had so much patience.