Sons Behavior

Updated on May 29, 2010
A.P. asks from Hollywood, FL
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Hi eveyone! I have a 9 yr old son that is being raised by me & his grandma. My son is very active but does not have adhd. He apparentley has a mood disorder with aggression so the Dr put him on risperdone which calmed him down alot But still doesnt like 2 b told no.So now the Dr wants 2 add Depakote.I do have my son in therapy & am also watching everything he eats.I am so against him on Rx.But iam also so lost with this situation! Does anyone have any suggestions that might help us.Plus the school system down here in S.Florida is is totally unsympathetic.His dad is hardly in his life & now wants him 4 the summer.He lives on the west coast.Does anyone have any suggestions about a child being on 2 Rxs? Or know of a good program 2 get him into 2 help him? Please help! Thank U!!!!!

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M.R.

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A mood disorder is a medical illness. Do you reject all medical care or just medical care for the brain? It is an organ like any other and it gets sick like hearts and feet and stomachs do. Some illnesses are complicated and need more than one prescription. It sounds like you are doing.the right things for him. What kind of.program do you mean? The school support should at least be a behavior plan, where are you in that process? Has the school refused services, have they evaluated? Does he have educational needs to? There is a process and if you advocate, you can get services that will help. I am an advocate, if you can elaborate on what he is getting in school, I might be able to help you.

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S.S.

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First of all I would get him off all those toxic meds! Since you live in Hollywood, get him over to The Brain Child Institute on Sheridan St. There is always a reason why. Find out what it is. He might not be processing sounds, sensations and other things very well so he gets moody and aggressive. This is very common for children who have underlying problems in that their brains have not properly matured and integrated. They will change your son's life (and yours) permanently.www.brainchildinstitute.com

L.B.

answers from New York on

You can try the Depakote and if you do not like the way your son responds to the medication you can stop giving it and then talk to your doctor about alternatives. Sometimes a combination of medications are needed to get the desired result. Mood disorders can sometimes be tricky to treat.

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K.A.

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Personally I have never been a fan of Rx for things like mood disorders. There is just to little by way of conclusive studies that show the long term effects and potential dangers of using psychotropic substances that alter neuron pathways and receptors in still developing brain tissue. Children and teens are still going through their cognitive and emotional development . I could rant forever on why I feel the way I do but every parent is entitled to do what they feel is correct for their child and I do not want to step on any toes in a very touchy subject. I would like to remind, or enlighten, all you moms out there that school systems AND doctors alike get funding and "bonuses" from these Rx companies to hit a quota of their particular Drug perscribed. Rx is FOR PROFIT BUSINESS they have their bottom line in mind and their profit margin NOT yours or your childrens health. They mask symptoms more than they " cure" problems. There is no " magic bullet" that fixes a mood or behavior disorder. Time, therapy, diet, attention, activity, and discipline will. Of course extreme cases such ad schizophrenia and manic/depressive bi polar disorder are a different scenario. In your case I would see 1 if not 2 other doctors for a second opinion. The school system is unsympathetic ( I lived in south Florida I know their system sucks) but you do have the summer to gain some improvement. I have always thought martial arts is ideal for an aggression problem. Have you thought of enrolling him in a martial arts based camp or local classes. He will learn discipline and it will be a good channel for his aggression andsequel energy. It is also a solo sport so it aids in the self awareness a self reliance and would keep him from any unnecessry confrontations with other teamates. It also builds self confidence and may provide him with some postive male influences since you said his dad isn't really part if his life. That may be a contributing factor of his acting out too. I don't know the circumstances if yours and your sons relationship with his father, I know it can be challenging but barring any real concern for his safety and well being you may want to consider allowing his dad to try rebuild a relationship with him if he is making an effort. My brothers always rsented their mother for making it so hard for them to see their dad. Even if we hate them, are disappointed in them, or ate just afraid their half hearted attempts will hurt their childrens feelings children do need their fathers involved to some degree in their life. Myabe you might consider trying to make that summer visit happen and just buy a plane ticket that can be changed if he decides he wants to come home early. Hope I could help and hugs to you and your family things will get easier :)

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