Sonogram and Family Vent (Kinda Long)

I was so aggravated that no one in my family thought they could throw me a shower because they didn't know what I was having (I wasn't finding out). Hello! Not everything in the world is pink and blue! I totally did not want to do the pink-or-blue everything thing. They did end up throwing one when my daughter was a month old, but by then I'd already had to buy the usual necessities and it was just an excuse for everyone to buy tons of pink clothes, most of which never got worn.

As far as the sonogram goes, you can't always tell no matter how good the tech is. And I wouldn't worry about the breech this early. I wouldn't personally go for the higher level ones just for gender though, I don't think they're very safe.

D.
send me your sister's email address so I can tell her what a lousy sister she's being, especially after getting all the freebies from you for her daughter
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yes, call your doctor and tell them about your bad experience at the last sonogram and tell them they owe you, free of charge, a new one. you're entitled to know if you want to know
as for mom and sister, so bad. you absolutely deserve one. maybe tell your husband that you want one and let him make magic.
the baby shower isn't just about gifts, it';s about celebrating your pregnancy and arrival of your new baby. the goodies just make it better
good luck
vlora

First of you should report your unhappiness to managment to where ever you received your sonogram from and tell your insurance company alot of hospital and stuff are into customer service more then ever and insurance companies will stop using a specific place if too many customers are unhappy....Since no one will throw you a baby shower why don't you just throw a welcome the baby party instead...since you already got the gear that you need that way people can bring presents/premade food etc and meet the baby it would be fun.....we threw a party like that when my third child was born and it was fun!!!

AWwww I'm really sorry I would report to ur doctor or the place where u got the sonogram I'm almost 8months pregnant and that is very dissapointing not knowing what ur having,If u have a spouse or something maybe he can throw u a shower if not I would do like that other women said and have a welcome home baby party thats a great idea! If you were my friend or something I deff throw u a babyshower I was worried at first because this is my 3rd and my youngest will be 7 but Thank GOD for such a wonderful mother and family. God Bless You! and Hope all goes well don't get discouraged =)

D.,

Hi, I'm sorry you were disappointed with the sonogram. But you have to understand that even at six months old a baby does still look like a skeleton, unless its a 3 or 4D sonogram. In fact, alot of providers won't even show the baby's face (frontal) because of that fact.

As far as the baby shower, it is disappointing that you didn't get one. A baby shower while nice for people to do, isn't a necessity. Baby showers costs alot of money for the people involved, and perhaps they don't have the money to shell out for it. I'm not saying that you shouldn't have one. I'm just saying that maybe they are looking at it from a different perspective. Hopefully they are just trying to throw you off and not tell you about it.

Best of luck!

B.

I understand about not having a baby shower. I didnt have a baby shower with either of my kids. No one wanted to throw me one. I had a hard time getting things for my daughter becuase I lost my job while pregnant due to complications with the pregnancy and my husband (who was just my fiance at the time) worked as much as he could but we struggled. I felt and still feel left out. I hate going to baby showers for other familiy members becuase I feel horrible being there becuase no one wanted to throw me one. I know exactly how you feel. I hate looking in the baby books of my kids and seeing the empty pages and who knows if one day they will ask why they didnt have a baby shower, what do i tell them? I know the problem was my family lives in WV and I live in PA but i went down three or four times while I was pregnant and still no one threw me a shower. Then they all expect me to show up for thier showers, WTF? My husband's mother and sister didnt throw me one either. I dont know if they thoguht it was my families responsiblity or what. Then when I mentioned I didnt have anything with my second pregnancy becuase yeah my daughter was still in the crib(she was 9 months old when I got pregnant with my son)His mom said well you dont have showers for your second baby.WTF? Good Luck. I hope that your mother and sister realize what Jerks they are being.

Hi D. thats a shame Go Lisa you have the right idea. Thats terrible your family is being so insensitive. I have four kids and with everyone i had either a shower or coming home party. If you lived closer id throw you a party. Every mommy deserves at least one shower. Are you with the babies father maybe he could talk to your mom and sis and let them know how much a baby shower would mean to you. If not then maybe you should let them know how you feel maybe they just dont realize how important it is to you. And you know what honey if they dont have on e for you maybe you need to stop doing so much for people who dont want to take the time to care for you. If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to write me. Steph

D.,

It is disappointing that your family is acting the way they are. As far as them not knowing what to buy because they don't know if it is a boy or girl.....I have a friend whose sister was supposed to have a boy. Everyone bought boy presents and she had a sailboat theme for her shower. The baby is now named Zoey and looks really cute in lace, flowers and ponytails. I personally feel neutral is the way to go.

I didn't have baby showers for my 2 kids either. I lived far from family which made planning a little difficult. I felt bad at the time because I wanted people to help celebrate the birth of my kids. One thing that did help when my second one was born was that I had recently joined a MOMS Club. The women were wonderful. They didn't throw me a shower but they did make a few dinners for my family while I was in the hospital. They also pitched in for a gift certificate and bought my oldest child a gift so he wouldn't feel left out. We planned a special play date at my house when things settled down so the moms and their kids could meet my baby. If you need some more support maybe look for a group where you live. The other moms will be happy for you and will take an interest in you. BTW, I like Christina's idea of throwing a party after the baby is born.

http://www.baby-insight.com/

Check out that website. Baby Insight offers 4D ultrasound to check out your baby. I had it done with my last one and the pics are absolutely amazing. The have packages ranging from $89 for gender determination only to $260 for videos and pics. You can google 4D ultrasound your area to get more providers. I loved it with the last one and definately will do it again with the baby I'm pregnant with now. Let me know if you want to see mine and I'll email a couple to you. (I have around 40 4D images)

As far as the shower goes... how about asking a close friend. I've never had a shower either but do think it would be nice.

Good luck!1

I agree, go get one of the 3D sonograms. I had so much fun doing that! I had 8 people in the room! It was on a big screen tv! It was great!

I understand wanting a baby shower. Talk to your sisters or mother and tell them how you feel. Throw your husband a daddy shower! Screw tradition!

And when this is all said and done, go get some girlfriends, everyone needs them!

i am pregnant too and was considering one of those new 4d u/s. this is my 5th pregnancy and our hospital still does not have that new machinery to give that kind of detail. so i was thinking of just paying the 100 bucks, you should too.
on to the shower...it's possible that maybe the girls at work might throw you one. if you have mentioned at all at work about not having had one in the past, maybe they caught on and are considering doing that. i had one with my first baby, and then a very informal one with the girls from work with my 4th child. someone i know is throwing herself one. she was afraid that her family (and i don't blame her) wouldn't do it and she really wanted one. so i'm glad she's getting one, but i was at the same time, upset that if i had known before the invites went out that i could have done it for her...
good luck and i hope you get what you want. we're pregnant and we deserve it!