My little boy was LOVING church when we would take him to the nursery. He has been moved to a new room because he just turned 2 and cries and does not want to go. I am not sure if the attendants in the room are just not as caring with him or dont try to distract him when he becomes upset. Last week we dropped him off (crying and clinging to us) and when we picked him up he was standing in the window still sobbing alone. Any suggestions anyone has would be great!
It sounds like he is just going through a phase.
He is at that age where separation anxiety is going to happen.
keep on doing what you are doing.
I would talk to the Children's Minister or whoever is in charge. I wouldn't be happy knowing my child cried the entire time I was at church. Our church will notify you if your child is having a tough time. The nursery parents get a pager that will go off if you are needed and if your older child needs you they come find you. I would discuss the situation with the Children's Minister, it is their job to make sure ALL the kids are in a great learning environment. After all, how can you learn about Jesus if you are so unhappy.
It could also be an adjustment phase for him and after a few times in the new room he'll be fine.
I also think that if they can't help you with the situation and it doesn't get better over time you should consider looking for a new church.
Good luck and God bless!
I would definitely talk to the children's minister or the preschool/nursery director. Express your concerns and find out what they normally do when a child is having a hard time. My church recently started using pagers but before that they would just come find you. I am so sorry that you found your baby crying all by himself!! What a horrible feeling! I hope that you are able to solve this problem and be able to feel comfortable leaving your little one in the nursery again. Congrats on your future addition as well!
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Please go talk to the Nursery Director to discuss your issue and the actual date it happened. He/She needs to be aware of your child being alone and get the entire story.
The nursery staff should have given you a detail about how it went and what they did (if anything) to console and redirect him.
The director knows that the nursery (besides being child care for you) is the building blocks to coming to church and feeling comfortable there. If this isn't happening for your son, they need to know.
If you don't get the reception you feel will get the appropriate attention, escalate it.
What did the attendants say, if anything about why he was alone and sobbing? If he was doing well before I would think something is amiss........can he go back to his other room for a bit and maybe they can bring him to the new one? I know when mine were little we had good folks and some just biding their time.......I am so sorry this is happening.....
I would talk to the attendent in the room and the director, maybe even at the same time. Our church has a system in place as well to alert the parents if their little one is not doing ok back in the nursery. It could very well be the adjustment from one room to another. You may be able to sit in the room with him for a bit a few Sundays in a row to help him adjust.
My son had a very hard adjustment when he was moved out of the nursery. This shocked me because he is usually very laid back and is outgoing with everyone. Looking back, I think he was going through a stage (age related). That said, my son was never left to cry the entire time...I would talk to the Children's Minister. It sounds like a combination of things happening.
Try asking your son why he doesn't want to go and see if something has happened. A lot of times, kids just have a hard time adjusting to a new environment. New teachers, new classmates, etc..... He may have gotten used to being the oldest in the room and now he's the youngest and feels uncomfortable and the teachers may not know how to handle it. Try talking to him and telling him that you will go to class with him a few times. Help him transition to the new environment. Then when he is used to it, tell him that you would be very proud of him if he was a big boy and went by himself. Many kids opportunites to make mommy and daddy proud and be praised.
Do you know for sure he's crying the whole time? Our son cries when we drop him off and then when the door opens for pick up time, he starts crying at the door again until he sees us as he sees parents coming for their kids and it looks as if he's alone as the workers are getting diaper bags and checking the other kid's tags to match them to their parents. We usually drop him off and then take our other son to his class and peek back in on the younger son. He's usually playing when we peek back in at him. So, he isn't really crying the whole time, it just appears he is. That could be happening with your son.
