Son in Our Bed

Well, I'm guessing I won't be in the majority on this but I believe you and your family are A-OK! My son just turned 7 and he slept w/ us last night. I had a few people tell me that I was headed for BIG trouble b/c I allowed this in the past. But,,,,,lo & behold a couple of years ago he started asking to sleep in his bed. I am like you and I loved my family being all together so I was actually a little sad. He does just fine in his own bed and only every once in a while does he sleep with us so I know he's perfectly normal and has no clingy issues. During stormy weather I make him sleep with us! I never slept w/ my parents but I do remember quite a few nights when I would take a blanket & pillow and think I was sneaking into their room and slept on the floor by their bed. Unbeknownst to me then, they knew the whole time and never made me feel bad by running me out and forcing me back in my bed. I remember when something was bothering me all I had to do was lay my head in Mom's lap and everything seemed better. I live a few hours from her now and am all grown up and sometimes I call and tell her that I need my Mama's lap again! lol Sometimes they need a little push and sometimes they need a little comfort. They grow up so fast and one of these days I'm going to wish so much for one more night that my baby boy needed me in the night. I've heard of parents that lock their kids in their rooms and listen to them screaming for them and that breaks my heart. Never ever in a million years would I make my son feel that he was just on his own and Mama won't come when he calls. And like I said, we make sure he gets both sides - he is not a quitter, he has great self-esteem he is bright and outgoing w/ friends. So I don't think we've ruined him in any way. The jest of all this is that you know your child - just do what you feel in your own heart and mind and he will know he is loved and protected and he will do just fine!

My son is two and he goes to sleep with us and most of the time my husband takes him up to his room after he falls asleep,but i enjoy him being with us, after all it took me 10 yrs to have him and i just had a miscarriage almost two months ago and have since learned that i may not be able to have anymore kids and i really am not sure that i want to go thru that again anyway. So he may be my only child and i want to spend as much time with him as possible after all they do grow up and soon they won't want to be around you. So enjoy them being young and wanting to be close to you since you don't know what tomorrow holds.

I don't see a problem with it. My pedi actually told me that it's a good bonding time plus there will grow out of it.

I share a room w/my 2yr son "we live w/my parents" so there is no room for him to have his own room.
I have my queen bed and he has his crib and every night he wakes up crying wanting to come to bed w/me. It's usually anywhere from midnight to 6am. I REALLY enjoy it and It's our bonding time. We cuddle, hug, kiss and play. He actually fussy in the morning if we don't have our bonding time before we wake up and get ready for breakfast.

Treasure every moment.

M.

hey R.
oh well, when i had my 1st son i was so afraid that something would happen 2 him that most of the time he was on my bed...until one day that a family friend of us whos a phycologist told me that what i was doing was making my babie feel not SECURE, and that would cause serious problems later on, to be honest i thought that was crapy but then when he was 2 i realized she was so true! now hes 3 and it was horible trying 2 get him to sleep on his room but thanks god now hes spending more time at his room, he still wakes up but we send him back 2 bed, its not safe for kids 2 sleep with parents,and as much as it hurts me i know im doing the best for then right now, I strongly believe that parents, who have time to themselves as well as time with their children, make better parents in the long run. As parents, we want to always be there for our children. But in real life we can't be. By giving our children the message that they always need a parent, we set up a cycle that a parent cannot and should not live up to. One of the things we must teach our children is not just how to do things, but how to do things on their own,Allow them to cuddle up in your arms as you put them to sleep and run into your room in the morning for a good morning hug in your arms (and bed.) But let them know that because you love them, they need to learn to sleep alone.

good luck!

i agree with the other posters
if it works for you there is no issues.
they eventually grow out of it.

Since it's working for you all, it is not a problem. My oldest son was in our room (in a twin bed by our king bed) until he was about 3. My younger son had a stronger need (and still does and he's now almost 12) to be close to us and he was in our room until he was over 6. They will eventually grow up and not want to be near you, so enjoy this time!
There is actually a book entitled "The Family Bed" by Tine Thevinin, that you might read to reassure you that there are indeed benefits to this situation and it is totally normal.