Son Getting Slapped by Other Child at Daycare (Sorry It's a Little Long)

Updated on August 05, 2009
A.R. asks from Grafton, WI
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Today my husband dropped our son off at daycare, when my son got into his room he went to put some books away and a kid came up to him and slapped my son on the face. My husband was still there (and saw what had happened) and told the teacher what had just happened (the teacher did not see it). The teacher gave the other child a time out. I know that this kid is a hitter, I was told by another teacher that he hits when he is upset. Also this is not the first time that he has hit my son. My son tells us that the other kid hits him, but I have always thought it was during play time (not that it is ok to hit during play time, but he is a boy and I know that my son can play rough at times to, that is why I have never said anything about this before). But for it to happen just out of the blue, we have a hard enough time getting our son to daycare to begin with (he would rather be home) and now maybe I see one of the reasons he does not like going to daycare, however once he is there, he is fine. Just wondering if anyone else had an issue like this before. I also called and talked to the director today and she said that at this age (they are 4 yr olds) it can be hard to "show love" and maybe that is just his way of showing it. My feelings are, then tell them not to show love if it involves my son getting slapped in the face. She also said that she will be talking to the other child. I will have to see what is said about this when I pick him up tonight.

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S.W.

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My child goew to daycare and yes kids do get hit. However at our daycare if we see a child is constantly having a behavior (hitting, biting, pushing, ect.) We have a behavior guidance plan that we use to help prevent it from happening or at least minimize it and teach a more appropriate response. Also we have a three strike a day rule and then you are sent home. You could ask your daycare if they are doing anything to stop this. If they are unconcerned about this boys behavior i would pull my child. You wouldn't want to be hit all day when your at work. My three year old boy doesn't hit hardly ever so a 4 year old should certainly know better.

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L.Y.

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My daughter's goes to an in-home daycare so there are only 5 kids at a time. My daughter has come home with small scratches before. I know kids will hit, bite or scratch one another, but your child should not have to go through that. The daycare provider needs to take appropriate actions and inform you along the way what steps are being taken. My nephew is at a center and he was bit on the face twice where there was blood. Eventually, my had to remove him from that class to get him away from that child. Do what your gut tells you.

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J.C.

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I would tell the center you want to know every time your child is injured at the daycare. Your son does not deserve to be bullied. If you don't like the answer you get, you are paying for him to go there, and the center cant keep your child safe, move on to a new daycare.

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D.P.

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kids at this age should be taught to keep their hands to themselves!! our daycare even limits hugs and "good" touching. the kid is doing it right in front of parents...what will he do if he has a chance to be in the corner of the room with your kid or a blind spot out on the playground?? if your daycare doesnt seem to mind that a kid is randomly hitting another, probably throughout the day, i would look into finding another school....can you image being your son and getting knocked around throughout the day?? it wouldnt feel nice, especially if he is doing nothing to provoke it and the other child really isnt getting punished for it.

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B.H.

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I've had my older daughter in several daycare centers and several because when we were in a center like this who makes excuses and doesn't put your child's safety first I yanked my child out.

I know plenty of daycares that won't let a kid continue to hit or bite whatever. 3 strikes there out.

I think 4yr.old boys can be rough BUT...for that kid to hit him out of the blue is ridiculous and more than timeout should be warranted.

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K.L.

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I'm sorry your son is going thru this! Personally, I haven't taken my daughter to daycare, but she has been in preschool since last school year and I know they don't tolerate kids hitting! I don't think any daycare that is supposed to keep all kids safe and happy, should be tolerating this! I understand they are 4 year olds, but that isn't an excuse! His parents need to be aware of what is going on as well. I can't believe a daycare would just let this continue without doing something about it!

Good luck!

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