Sometimes I Feel like a Nut.... Why?

My best guess is hormones.

I'm 43 and have those kinds of moments. I know that logically it's my hormones but that doesn't stop me from wanting to snap my husband's head off just for asking me to go to a movie with him on Sunday afternoon (when he should know that I like to rest).

It's really hard. My kids are teens - can't imagine how I would feel with little kids.

One things that helps me is my progesterone cream. But I wouldn't try any of that stuff without seeing someone knowledgeable and qualified.

PS: Regular exercise and fresh air outside helps too.

Sounds like perimenapausal to me. Like you want to come out of your skin.
If you start to be very forgetful, have trouble sleeping, and of course last, but not least, hot flashes, that will be confirmation. It's awful.

Have your doc check your hormone levels. Try the OTC Estroven.

Talk with your H. There should be some kind of rescue signal. From you to him, when you are about to blow a gasket. And also from him to you when you seem to be needing a time out before you do major damage to your relationships.

Yes, it feels like you are loosing your mind! I finally had HRT, hormone replacement therapy for 3 yrs, one of the best things I ever did for myself.

It sounds like you are overwhelmed. A great book that might help is "The Art of Extreme Self-Care" by Cheryl Richardson.

Also, try the book "The Wisdom of Menopause" by Christiane Northrup. She talks a lot about how our unfinished business, lack of boundaries, lack of self-care, unexpressed negative emotions, and fear of changing the things we may need to change all contribute to the physical symptoms of perimenopause. It is a great book that emphasizes the mind/body connection and how we create our body chemistry through our belief systems and unresolved negative issues.

Oh sweetie you're SO not crazy, this is the double edged sword of a weekend away! You get to relax for a few days and then come back to an even crazier and messier house because dad and the kids just don't keep things together on the same level as you do.
This happened a few times when our kids were younger. Finally I BEGGED my husband to just take the kids to his parents one weekend, so I could REALLY have some time off. I had friends over, we ate and drank and watched movies, then in the morning we slept in, had a nice breakfast and went for a hike. The house was quiet and peaceful and most importantly, stayed clean. It was a lot more relaxing and refreshing for me than getting away was.
Any chance you can do something like that next time?

Could be PMS or perimenopause. (My PMS didn't get worse as I grew older, because it was bad from the beginning. That was before there was even a name for it! I thought I was mentally ill!)

Could be that the girls' relaxing weekend was really, truly relaxing. It might have been that sort of mountaintop experience we all like having.

And then you went back to the valley. You were tired, and you were disposed to be grouchy. And there was mess and noise to take your breath away and encourage you in that direction.

I think that if it were me, I'd go back to the doctor for further checking. I believe medication can help with perimenopause to an extent. A lot of it is still mental toughness - being able to use your brain in spite of your nerves, and not taking your feelings out on the people around you. However, you're a mom, so you know a lot about that!

I sincerely hope it works out for you - and soon.

Ha! Kind of like when you take a vacation from work and there's work piled to the ceiling waiting for you when you get back? Because the people that SHOULD have been doing the work, DIDN'T do it? Yeah like that. ;)
That's why when you get the opportunity for a vacation or girls weekend away--enjoy it--because you can bet there'll be a mountain of pain when you get back! LOL
Seriously, discuss it with your doc. Couldn't hurt. I was never O. to suffer with PMS, physically or emotionally, but as I got older, it definitely intensified.

It sounds like you might need a *real* break, like a hotel room by yourself sort of break. One where you get to be truly alone.

When you describe the breathing fast or wanting to run right out the door-- that sound to me like a momentary anxiety. You left, you came back to all this mess and demand for your attention--- the kids want you, the house is calling to you, the kids are not cooperating.... it's hard.

My girlfriends and I joke that it's almost worse when we leave, because we get relaxed and then ten seconds after we walk in the door, it feels like there's hell to pay for being gone. It also feels awful because there's just No Escape...

I don't know what to tell you it could be. Sometimes, I just have to take a lot of deep breaths and remember that this too shall pass. If you think it's hormonal, could they do some bloodwork and find out if you need some progesterone supplementation or estrogen? I know that has worked for some of my lady friends. One swore that she wouldn't have made it through her daughter's teen years without her progesterone cream (she adopted her daughter later in life!) .

I hope things improve for you!

It sounds like stress. When we are under stress we do react physically. Try to carve out some time just for you daily. Do some kind of exercise for at least 20 minutes, really get the heart pumping. I have been lucky to find some decent exercise DVDs at Goodwill but if you have cable with on demand channels you can find some exercise programs there. Or get out and take a walk alone, pick up the pace get the heart rate and breathing up, be sure to give yourself some cool down time. You could also put on your favorite music and dance. Then also carve out some time to meditate if not daily then 3 times a week. I like to meditate to soft music and candlelight, sometimes with insense. The dollar stores around here have CDs with soft music or look on youtube and download or burn some CDs.

Ask the other ladies if they felt the same upon return. I love St. John's Wort. It's a cheap and easy to get mood enhancer.

I am at the tail end of menopause. My symptoms are/were that I am moody at work, love to be alone, then get extremely lonely afterwards, no enjoyment of intimacy, forgetful, insomnia, I blew through money on impulsive spending...

Good luck.

Go to your gyn and talk about it. If you are not on birth control pills, you can have bloodwork done that will help determine if you have started peri-menopause.

Believe me, even without menopausal symptoms, you could get upset over leaving a clean house and coming home to a messy one. I feel for you there.

If you are going through peri-menopause, research ways to cope. Diet, exercise, etc. If you don't get hot flashes and night sweats, you are truly blessed...

Hi, Mama:

Is there some reason you want to label yourself?

Set boundaries.
Good luck
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Hi! There may be a chemical/hormonal reason- I would definitely get your thyroid levels checked. It's very common to have thyroid problems for women, and I know that I've felt how you're describing when mine are out of whack.

It's sounds like you had a panic/anxiety attack last night and your still feeling the affects of it this morning

I don't know why but how you felt sounds like a recent episode in my house where my almost three year old asked, "Momma, are you having a tantrum?" Decidedly not my finest mom moment.

As a starting place I would go back to my doctor for more help and I would watch what I was eating/drinking/doing or not doing activity wise. Too much caffeine and too little sleep leaves me jagged for instance. Good luck.

It was just a panic/ anxiety attack and what you are feeling today is the fear of having another one. It could be hormone related. Just accept the feeling and then let it go. Fighting it makes it worse. Know you are not crazy. Kick your husband in the butt for not cleaning the house and move on. If the feelings continue, you may want to look into therapy to get to the root of it.