So What Do I Do?

I love going to the movies alone.
I'd take a nap and then go to a movie and then maybe take another nap!

Suggestions...
Go see a movie
Go shopping, you don't have to buy anything, just window shop
Go the park, spread out a blanket and read
Go to the library
Take a class
Volunteer

S.:

EVERY Friday night is MY night out...whether I choose to go to a movie or out to dinner with my Girl Friends - it's MY NIGHT...hubby takes care of dinner and the kids...if I CHOOSE to stay home? I am ignored - I am INVISIBLE - YOU DO NOT TALK TO ME - YOU DO NOT SEE ME!! :) If I stay home - I read in my bed, do ebay stuff or watch a movie...

So start instituting a specific night out for you...get one or more of your GFs on board and start DOING...whether you go to the gym and then something else - DO IT...

If hubby has golf - you MUST have something else..

In our home - one night a week is family night (Wednesday) - we have pizza and watch a movie or a TV show that we recorded...it's been a little messed up this summer with Bob losing his job and working on finding a new one and the boys going to friends home's for sleepovers....

Bob used to go play cards on Saturday night with friends...two friends moved out of State, one had twins and the other just adopted a baby...urgh...but we are actually working on getting together at each other's houses to make this happen...

Start talking to your girl friends, figure out what night will work for them as well and make it happen.

Hi S.,

It al depends on what you want to do and IF (!!!) you want to do it by yourself.

My wife can do any night she wants by herself, and so can I. I can choose and so can she.

My choice: To be with my wife. I happened to have made a very wise decision when I chose my wife. She feels she made a very wise decision when she married me. So we choose to do things together. If you choose to do things with your husband, that doesn't make you less of a woman or less of an independent woman. You have a choice. Its your choice, not my choice or any one of the people on this site's choice.

If your husband chooses to golf alone, then it just goes to show he isn't as smart as you.

I wish you well. Good luck to you and yours.

Some of the things ladies do around here are, sports (softball comes to mind) bunko (sp?), Book Club, Movie club, knitting club. Could getting together with other people who run be turned into a run and then a beverage or just relaxing somewhere?

Does you gym have a sauna/spa? After working out, relax and get a pedicure or manicure/massage/facial? and THEN a movie if there's extra time. :)

I go to the movies by myself! I am DYING to go see "The Help"...

If I couldn't think of anything better than staying home with my family, then I'd stay home with my family. You don't have to stagnate at home, do something fun. Or take your kids out with you and do something fun. If it looks like enough fun, maybe your husband will join in sometimes.

Oooh, I'm SO excited to suggest this to you:

I couldn't tell for sure if these were in your area but:

http://www.vettasports.com/zipsearch.php

http://omni.goalline.ca/

http://www.lakecountrysoccer.org/

It sounds like you're athletic, so get on a woman's sports team! The camaraderie of a team is great.

OK--I don't take a O. night per week with regularity, but when I feel like my head is going to explode I:

Go shopping.
Get my nails done (mani/pedi).
Go somewhere & get a decaf drink & read.
Go walking at the local park trails.
Go to a movie--if no O.'s available I go alone. So peaceful.

Carrie--Can you get to Pittsburgh, I'll go! Me too! LOL

& here's the kicker: location, location, location!

Do you head toward Potosi, Cuba/Steelville, or go even further to Rolla/Sullivan? There's the ouch to your situation! Makes it even harder, doesn't it?

Living in St James, I'm closer to Rolla....but my free time is pretty much the 1 1/2hour each week (during the school year only) when my son is in Religion School. & I usually fill that in with WalMart, my haircut time, & other errands. Often I drive by Applebees or Colton's & think, dang - I hear a margarita calling my name!

I think we should get together with Tedsmommy! We all live in mid-MO!

& now to try to answer your question: is there an organization/club (PTO or church related) you could join? What about getting involved in the city board meetings? Would either of those options interest you? Contact your Chamber of Commerce & see if they have any ideas.....Hope this helps!

Whooops...one more thought: if a weekly "night out" is not attractive, then what about a weekend away....once every couple of months? Would that be an option? Would that help you reboot? When I want to run away, I always head to my Mom's! She's on the Mississippi River, just 2 1/2 hours away.....right in the middle of tourism mecca, including antique shops, casinos, & wineries! Love, love, love going there. Peace....

i'm all for nights out alone, ecspecially if you don't have a babysitter but I'd rather go out with my SO. If thats not an option, join meetup.com, and find some groups ni your area, there are ussually girl groups, or groups for hobbies and much more. If not join a sport

i actually do work out when i get time for myself. that way i don't have to worry about being interrupted and having to stop.

And it doesn't have to be one night a week. For me as a single mom it's one weekend a month while he's at Grandma and Grandpa's. And I don't neccesarily do anything special. Take a shower by MYSELF without having to wonder what's being destroyed in the house. Go to the grocery store and Walmart by MYSELF. Go to the library.... I'd love to find a book group like the one I belonged to in Cedar Rapids though

Once a week is too much for me. I tried that but couldn't always book the time (until I found a group of girlfriends and rotated dinner with some of them). Other suggestions - wander a local mall or bookstore, do the grocery shopping in peace with no kids in tow, go to a movie your husband doesn't want to see, drive around and have an uninterrupted conversation with a far away friend.

I enjoy going to the mall to window shop by myself. I also enjoy going to the book store or the library and reading for a while. And don't underestimate the pleasure of taking in a matinee movie by yourself: you don't have to share your drink or your snacks and you can get whatever you want and sit wherever you want. And SEE whatever you want. When it's nice out I also like to pack or pick up my favorite lunch and drink and take it to the park with a book. ::sigh::

Movies, retail therapy (even if it's just window shopping), pedicure/manicure/haircut/highlights, go to the beach or lake and take a good book. Catch a play at a local theater, take Zumba, etc...! The sky is the limit! Have fun!

During the Spring, Summer and Fall I am apart of the local community club and play in various sport leagues. Usually it is kickball but I sub for volleyball here and there. It is once a week on the same day, game times varies. Afterwards I go out to the bar or out to eat with the team. We are not that great but have become friends after 4 years of being in the community league. We are by far not the greatest, and there are leagues that are "just for fun" so adults area getting out and enjoying the local rec park areas.

Find something you really like and find if there are local events held for it. Going to those events put yourself out there and see if there are other people who you could connect with and hang out with... wine sampling, art, hiking, runs, scrapbooking, voulnteer at an animal shelter or homeless shelter.

I love going to the Gym, it makes me feel good about myself.
Shopping for the kids
Movies
Library and read, sit at a coffee place and read.
I try to go to the park with the kids alot to meet other Moms and make friends that might want to hang out and do things with out the kids. i have a very outgoing attitude and make friends everywhere we go.

I don't get out weekly, but maybe once or twice a month. I will either go to the mall, go to a bookstore, or go to old town and just window shop. It's just nice to be alone and have some quiet time

Fitness class (yoga is a solid hour and if you run before, there you go!)
Join or start a book club
Join a women's club at church or in your community
Volunteer somewhere (retirement community, ASPCA, library)

Once a week is a little much for me, but a group of us started doing a ladies dinner group. We get together every-other-month and it's a blast. We just rotate homes and everyone brings something. Sometimes we do crafts, but mostly we eat, talk and play board games.

Browse around a bookstore and read while eating something yummy, visit an antique mall, go shopping, see a movie, volunteer at a women's shelter, take a class, like cake decorating or something at Hobby Lobby/Joanns/Micheals...