I am going through a divorce right now. The proceedings have only just happened so it's all relatively new. We were only married for two years and it's been an uphill battle the entire time. I know it's for the best but it still hurts never the less. It sucks because I know that I bent over backwards trying to do everything that was asked of me by him, at the cost of my friends, my family, and my life. Now I have to work to get all that back. What do I do?
Well, through much, and I do mean MUCH crying, praying and support from friends, it looks like the hubby and I are gonna give it another shot. Three months of living apart, it's gonna be a bit of a transition but I'm ready for it. Thanks to all for your words of encouragement and support.
Breath- you will feel so much better, one day at a time. It will all get better, now you have more time for yourself, pick up something you enjoy doing. Maybe a new hobby, spend lots and lots of time with family- if you don't have anyone close, it is time to get connected, arent' you glad you found us??? You take care and always remember, there is always a light at the end of the rainbow!!!
M.:
I've been there too and it hurts so badly. But you know what, God is greater!! He will give you something so wonderful that you'll look back and not even know who that person was and not care because you've become indifferent. Once you are able to become indifferent, you have made it.
I started doing a business from my home and it has built up my self-esteem so much!! I am so glad that I am with this group. We are known as the Stayin Home and Lovin It team. Many of this group are women but there are some men as well. But this group has so much to offer all of us. It gives us a chance to shine....and guess what, in the process we start making some extra money. You can do this business while working a full-time job if you have one.
Check out my website:
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I can't wait to talk with you and help you with your future. It has made such a difference in my life. I feel more confidence than I've felt in years. It's a place where I didn't think I'd ever be after I got divorced the first time.
T.
Hi M.,
I am new to this site. I have been seperated for almost a year now and divorced since November. I have had such a hard time getting over him. It came as such a surprise that he was cheating on me with my best friend. I was so in love and never expected it but who does. Anyways I started a divorce grief counseling group through the Four Square Church on Hwy 22 in Salem. It is a 13 week class and it goes on about 3 times a year. I tried to find out through internet but could never find anything so I went to the churches and they knew right away where to find what I am looking for. I hope this helps you and good luck.
Kim
Hi M.,
Do you have any family or friends that you are still close to? If not, take it one day at a time and reconnect with them. Explain that life interrupts all of us and you need their emotional support.
I've been happily divorced since 1995 and it was an extremely ugly divorce. He didn't want it and to this day he's still angry at me. We have a 13 son together.
Remember you are not alone out there and any time you need to talk or scream, you can write me. I understand what you're going thru.
Hang in there!
S.
get involved with your church's ladies studies or prayer group. reconnect with family. breathe in, breath out. God watches over you always. Divorce is forgivable and you will grow from this.
Lots of good advice so far. I left my ex-husband one year ago when my daughter was 8 months old. It was the hardest decision I ever had to make, but I would have to say one of the best as well. I remember thinking as I lay in bed that first night (at my parents house) that is was this tragic, scary thing to ask for a divorce but when all was said and done I realized that it didn't matter what everyone else in my life thought about it because I had finally done something that was right for me. I will tell you after two years of insomnia I fell right to sleep. I didn't have any clue as to what I would do or where I would go, but I didn't care because I felt like this giant weight was lifted.
Anyway, one year later, divorced for 6 months (thank god!)my daughter will be 2 in feb., I have my own condo, I'm working from home, have finally found my soulmate (not pushing either :) ) You will come to realize that the people who stick around are the ones you need and love, and those who bail aren't the people you need to surround yourself with anyway.
Every thing happens for a reason!!!!!
Yes I still argue with my ex-husband but I knew I would always have to be the adult in that relationship. :)
T.
This is not the end of the world. this is a great new begining to your life. you can't look at it as a bad thing because you said it yourself you tryd to br someone your not just to make him happy. That's not a relationship (that's a screech)lol just kidding. you know what I mean don't you? I'm sorry to crack jokes but you gotta admitt that was funny.
It hurts alot to have a relationship end and you think back and you go i just wasted 2 years of my life on him but belive me this is for the better and you will get back on track with your life. this was just the end of the road that you took in your life and you need to go back to that fork in the road and take another one. hopefull the next one will be a better one for you. and that does not mean go out and date. that means take care of you go find you again get your friend's back they'll forgiove you if they were really friends and they will welcome you back to your life with open arms and if they don't just get new ones. :)
