So Conflicted

Updated on November 03, 2009
S.G. asks from Aliso Viejo, CA
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Hi Moms
I have been a SAHM for the past 6 years. I have a 6 year old and a 2.5 year old. I have just been offered an amazing, well paying job. It would mean that I wouldn't have to start at the bottom again. Financially I don't NEED to work, but the extra money would be nice, and it would be good for my career. My concern is for my 2.5 year old. She has never even been left with a babysitter. Now we are thinking about putting her into school from 8:30am to 3pm. She will nap for 2 hours of that, but Iam still hesitant. Any advice???

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J.S.

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You chose to be a SAHM for a reason. You have just a few short years to be with your youngest before she's off to school and then plenty of time to work during school hours. You already have an amazing, well paying job in a different way and the best way possible.
I worked when my kids were little and deeply regret it. I wasn't able to do it all and my kids and family suffered greatly.
Jobs may come and go but your family never will.

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K.L.

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I am also a SAHM and if i was offered this job i would seriously consider it. could you work out a trial period so you could try the schedule for 6 weeks or so and see how your daughter does. she may love school. it will defiantly be an adjustment if she has never been without you before but it could be worth it to give it some time.
My boys were defiantly ready by 2 and a half to go to school. they loved the teachers and were so excited to learn each day. they were not in a program for as long because i was at home but i don't think they would have minded that much.
do you like the school? I think that is the key. if she is going to a place that you feel comfortable with and she does as well it should be a good transition. she will not be there very much longer than children her age are in preschool.
if it doesn't go well and she is having a very hard time or you are having a hard time being away from her i would reconsider.the first 5 years go by so fast and it is not worth it to be so conflicted. to have to pry your child off of you to go to a place she hates will be horrible for you both.
good luck it is a hard decision but a trial run is the way i would go. hope that helps

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J.D.

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Hi S G,

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See my listing in Local Business Reviews and check out my website and let me know if you would like to consider other options.
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S.W.

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Hello S G,

I am a working mom and I have no greater desire than to be able to stay at home with my kids AND be able to afford it. I envy you for the fact that you can do that. That said, I personally would choose to remain at home with my little one until she goes off to school. OR, I would consider asking the company if they are at all flexible with you working from home or on a part time basis until your daughter is old enough for school. If there was any way that I could stay at home with my kids and not suffer financially I would do it in a heartbeat! I wish you well with whatever you decide.

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H.R.

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Hello!! I have partnered with a green company and it is awesome! I get to work here at home while my baby naps and doesn't take that much of your time. It's so easy and so good for you and your family. Request more info at www.mommyhasfreedomathome.com

Hope to hear from you soon!!

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A.N.

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[I hope this post is not too late.] I encourage you to stay at home -- you are needed there most. Your kids deserve the best, and Mommies are best.

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