Okay:
1) NUMBER ONE... I would have, by now... told my Husband explicitly... that this is all bad timing, we are moving, HE has to get packed and ready too AND help his Wife/Family.
2) In your post you said "I am packing my whole house to move me and my family across the country...." NO where, in your statement, was your Husband included. In the process. Is this not his house too???? Thus, HE HAS TO GET HIS BUTT IN GEAR AND MOVE TOO.
So what, about doing social calls.
AND I would have told me In-Laws, THIS is not a good time... do you not see that we are moving and have TONS to do???
3) Your Husband is acting like a child, who's "Mommy" is doing the packing and moving, for him. Then he, will just move and it will all be done for him.
4) Which goes back to my point: I would have BY now, TOLD my Husband to get moving, get packing, get HIS house/family/Wife moved and ready. AND... what the hell with social calls and get togethers??? Wrong timing... and me myself... the Wife, IS NOT EVEN GOING OUT WITH HER GIRLFRIENDS, either, though you are moving TOO.
Right?
So, how come he gets treated with special kid gloves and does not have to get his hands, dirty... for moving HIS family, too????
I, if that were my Husband... I WOULD have told him that.
Clearly.
And by now.
AND told him that I am stressed.... to say it nicely.
Why don't you just TELL your Husband?