They miss you mom. I know you are tired, but please see it from your children's point of view. Now that we are modern, less time spent with children.
My mom was working, too. And she was tired, too. But whenever I saw her entering the room, you have no idea how much I love that, how much I miss her. Even seeing her face, laying my head on her arms were so peaceful, I still remember it till now.
I know that Americans prefer to sleep alone, it was successfully adapted by my in laws. They adore Americans parenting, it doesn't turn out well.
My hubby and I are currently staying in US, and many times his mom call him and ask him to call, but he just do it because obligation. I know why. When he was 4, he remember that his mom refused to sleep with him despite the fact that he miss her so much. He slept alone since babies, but he said he remember clearly how his mom looked unhappy and grossed. What shocks me is that he said he never miss his mom, that he felt that his mom only care about him just because she has to. It is horrible.
My parents on the other hand, are those who adores co sleeping. I slept with my parents till I was 10. They were always welcoming me, I cuddled with my mom while my dad told me stories and massaged my mom's feet. After that my cool mom always give me some advises, I was so happy. Because I saw my parent's romance, I learn healthy relationship. Cuddling with them gave me peaceful feelings, whenever I am sad, I remember this and I know that love is always there to support me. My father and my mother stories actually shapes who I am today. I learn to be honest ( believe me, I never cheat in any exams, because my mom told me this before bed). I learn to never run to drugs, but run to their beds if I have problems because I know my mom would never ever shut me down. Until today, I call her a lot. I love her so much. My most vivid memories about herand my late dad is the before bed rituals. Even today, I still remember her advises.
If you don't like what you have, you must like what you have.
E., if you are sad because you have no shoes, look at those who has no legs.
E., my pray for you is that you are blessed enough. If you are rich, you will be arrogant. If you are poor, you blame God.
Comparing my husband's experience and mine, hopefully now you can see something. I know my parent's way is so not American, but you don't want to be my in laws.
Try to be cheerful when you meet them. It is only a moment before they grow up. Don't look depressed, you can pursue your career later, but you cant rewind the time. My mom was tired, too, but she always smile. Her smile is the prettiest. For me, she is the prettiest woman ever.