Sleeping Issues - Mom, and Kids

S., why are you sleeping on the sofa? Why not sleep in your bed in your own room so that you set a clear message that everyone has their own special place to sleep? Your son is old enough to be sleeping on his own, without having to make sure you are where you are supposed to be. Do your children have a door to their rooms? You need to be firm and very, very clear that once they are tucked into their beds, the door closes and it stays closed unless they have to get up to go potty. Reward them with a sticker for every night they stay put in their own beds. Take them to CVS or some craft store, let them pick out a sheet of stickers that they will enjoy. Explain they will get ONE sticker for each night they sleep in their beds without getting up. Make a chart if need be, (Like a calendar with grids) and tell them if they sleep in their rooms, in their beds for a whole month that they can be treated to a milkshake or ice cream. The goal is for them to feel proud that they can do this and hopefully this getting up to check on you will be a thing of the past.
Good luck.

My daughter was the same way. She is almost 3 yrs old.

1st off together we went to the store and bought her a new comforter to celebrate sleeping in her own room. I called it her big girl blanket.

Then I got a nightlight to put in her room.

Afterwards, I let her pick out her favorite doll. I said this doll will keep you company at night so you won't get scared. If you feel lonely, you can snuggle up with your doll.

Finally, I let her watch one short movie just before bed 1 time.

It took a few tries, but it is finally working.

You just have to be consistent and not give in.

I hope this helps.

There is no nice, fast way to handle it. You just have to tell them that it's bed time and they are sleeping in their beds, and you are sleeping in theirs. The first time they get up, kiss and hug them and tuck them in. The next time, just tell them goodnight and tuck them in. Each time, say and do less when putting them back in bed. The idea is to let them know that getting up in the night doesn't get you extra attention unless there is truly something wrong. But keep putting them back and going back to your own bed. It can be a long night, or a few long nights. But eventually they get the point and go to bed without a fight and stay there. If it's a serious struggle you may have to compromise a bit. When my oldest went through this sort of thing at 3, we let him sleep in his doorway in a sleeping bag for awhile. It made him feel closer to us without leaving his room. After awhile he just started sleeping in his bed on his own. We also made a big deal out of buying the kids a sheet set and blankets of their own for their big kid beds.

S.:
I feel this as a control issue. Children are very intuitive and very smart. They will control you if you allow them...and you are if you are giving in to this. You are the Mother and need to stand your ground. All Children are built with the need for boundaries. They will cross the line continuously until they are set. They crave this lesson that is why we experience so may challenges with them.
Suggestion: set a dinner time, bath time and bed time and that is it! The weekends set later times. Children are also in need of structure. Give it a couple of weeks...they'll adjust. Just stick to your schedule and that is the final word. Don't try to negotiate...don't say a word...just give a look and send them back to bed...their beds. Not to be an enforcer, but to explain that sleep is a crucial part of their grow and development and their bodies need it to get smart and to grow big and strong...mommies need it to and the best way to sleep is in your own special bed, just for you:)
On another note...try to read a bit about Feng Shui...it is possible that the energy is unharmonious in their rooms.
Good Luck
L.

My son is 3 1/2. He does the same thing...he is in our bed by 3am. He too is awake after 10pm...