Hi R.,
I know what worked for us for training our kids to sleep through the night in their bed. We found a videotape at the library called Your Baby Can Sleep Too. The idea is that babies need to learn to put themselves to sleep like we do, rather than being rocked, fed, etc. til they are asleep and then put in their cribs. (obviously they need to be old enough not to need a feeding at night before you do this) The basics are:
1. Put them to bed awake after whatever getting ready for bed ritual you want to create. (we didn't create a routine - we would just give her a ten minute, five minute, one minute bedtime alert - so we were free to bathe, read stories, or whatever without being tied to HAVING to do anything before bedtime)
2. The first night you go back in at 2 minutes to comfort them and let them know you are still there but it is bedtime. Whatever you want to say is fine, but you are not supposed to pick them up. (the video says no touching, but we would lay our hands on our daughter and this technique still worked for us)
3. Then, as long as they are awake and crying, you keep going back in, but doubling the time in between i.e. next at 4 minutes, then at 8 minutes, then at 16 minutes, etc.
4. The next night you do the same thing except you don't go in the first time til 3 minutes. (then 6, 12, 24, etc) Each night you do this, increase the initial time by one minute. You shouldn't have to do this more than a week according to the video.
My first daughter had real sleep issues, but she took to this like a duck to water. The first night I had to go back in at the 16 minute interval, but she was asleep before the 32 minute check in. The second night I had to go in for the 12 minute but that was the last time. That night I heard her wake up at 2am on the monitor, but she never cried and was back asleep in minutes. We didn't have to do it anymore past 2 days. She just went to sleep within the first few minutes. I was really pleased with this process b/c I didn't want to just let her cry it out, so this seemed a happy medium - she did cry, (who wouldn't when your routine changes!) but I could go in and comfort her and assure her I loved her while still attaining the desired result of teaching her to sleep.
I hope this helps. Grace and peace be with you!