We are fixing to start renovating our house. We are starting with our daughter's room and they will not be in it for a couple of months (which they never sleep in anyways). My 8 yr old step son who we have everyother week for the time being until all of this custody stuff is over and my 4 yr old daughter want to get bunk beds and make his room thier room until we are done fixing the other room. My daughter is all for it and talks about it all the time when he is over. I guess my question is do you think there is something wrong with an 8 yr old boy and 4 yr old girl to share a room for a couple of months?
I shared a room with my brother until we were 9 and 6. We had bunk beds and everything was fine.
I agree with Christine M.....I say let her use the room while he is at his mom's and when He comes over stick her in your room. You have to be careful of the court's they will look down on an 8 year old boy and a 4 year old daughter sharing a room. Or not sure what kind of things your doing to the room's but if its not to bad maybe have a few friends over on a weekend to knock it all out in one day and then there wont be that much of a big deal. What are friends for any way if we cant lean on one another.
My son is 7 and my daughter is 9 and they have always shared a room. We are also remodeling and at this time my 2yr old daughter is also in thier room. (Good thing its a big room) I think its more about how comfortable you are with them sharing. Is there any behavior that causes you to worry? Since your son is only there for short spurts of time what about sleeping in the living room? All my kids love to get their blankets and pillows and spread out on the floor all weekend.
I don't see anything wrong with it.
I do not see anything wrong with it as long as the kids are ok with it. Most of all you have to be the best judge, if you see that it might be an issue you say no. Otherwise you may lose sleep and be worrying after it is done. I would say go for it, as long as it is fine with everyone, especially you
I also have an 8 yr old step son and a 4 yr old daughter. We just finished our custody trial 2 days ago and waiting on the judges decision of whether he will come live with us. He has been living in his mother's home and there was inappropriate sexual behavior between him and his older sister. It has been the main (but not only) focus of our case. I would be very leary of allowing the children to share a bedroom together especially until custody issues are over. In the event even if curiosity got the better of them (which obviously you want to prevent)you really have to observe your childrens interactions very carefully to make sure they continue in a safe and protected manner. I agree with a previous mom that it would be fine to allow her to sleep in the bunk beds when the boy is at his mom's, but to put her in your room when he is there.
When I was 4, I shared a room with my brother (4 years older) on bunk beds for 6 months. We had an exchange student and I had to give up my room. I loved sharing a room with my brother and he's always (even to this day) been my hero. That is a good age when it doesn't matter.
Only because of the custody BS..I would say hold off on the sleeping arrangements until your court stuff is worked out. You are in a war and they will use ANYTHING against you that they can. I speak from tons of experience and unfortunately, some people will use the most innocent circumstances and use them against you. If your little one has a toddler bed, just stick it in the corner of your room while he's over. BE CAREFUL!
