I was having trouble getting my son to sleep and still i have a problem. its not so bad now as he eventually does sleep and he doesnt wake up, but its still an hour chore to get him to sleep he is 18 months and he doesnt like it if i leave the room, he fights the whole sleep thing and it makes me mad, ive tried having him cry it out, but he gets in a state and then he doesnt sleep for what seems like forever....
yep typo left out the 8 lol he is 18 months old....
Is this a typo? You said he's one month?
I don't have any answers for you if the baby is really only one month. I can't see being "mad" at a one month old... or having a one month old cry it out. At that age they sleep a LOT and only cry when their needs aren't being met.
I'm hoping you left off a number.
Have you tried music or books on tape at bedtime? We leave books in the bed for them to look at at night. I used to put my oldest down to sleep and then pretend I was doing something in the room like folding clothes or fixing something in the closet so that he would not feel abandoned, but would still know it was sleep time. Eventually I started going out of the room for a second or two and coming back to "fix the closet" or "fold the clothes". For him, it helped him to not be as anxious at bedtime. If you go with the book thing, find something he loves and only use it at bedtime.
One month old is waaayy to young to cry it out. He really does only cry if he needs something at that age. Try to feed him a nice big feeding and make sure he is burped and dry before you lay him down.
My daughter had a similar problem. I would lay down with her and eventually she would go to sleep. So what I decided to do was to slowly make it shorter times. Then leave and come back in 5 minutes. I would keep coming back every 5 until he was asleep. Trying different things helped to get her comfortable with one of them and then making the time smaller every week or two. I hope this helps.
I feel your pain. This worked for my 2 kids. 1st make sure he's on a regular bed time schedule. Try to Relax. He will pick up on your stress. Make a little ritual of your routine.. bath, read him a story, play peek-a-boo, whatever. They love the consistency of knowing what to expect, so tell him ahead of time. Now, the hard part.. Try putting him to bed (after your little ritual) kiss him and reasure him and leave. Return in 5 min. but do not pick him up. Console him for 1 minute and then leave. Return in 7 minutes. then 10 minutes. then 15 minutes. then 20 minutes. Each time staying for no more than 1 minute. Try this routine. It usually works within 3 or 4 nights.Good luck & God bless.
You didn't mention if he has any other issues during the day like trouble processing sensory information or having strange reactions to things that other kids find fine. I wonder because these sleep issues are a sign of a self regulation dysfunction. The child goes into fear/protection and survival. There is such a thing as Fear Paralysis Reflex and you can help integrate that by "tapping" on him in certain places twice a week. I have done it with children with huge success for stuttering, sleep, fears, anxities, eating and other things. If you are interested, e-mail me privately.
I used sleep training on my 10 month old baby who was waking up every two hours and also had difficulty falling asleep without nursing. It was really, really, hard for us both the first two nights but it got better and better as we stuck to the program and bedtime/naptime routine. He is now 12 months old and I put him in his crib after our sleep routine and he usually lays downs and falls asleep within 15 minutes. Try: www.sleeplady.com/ or sleepsense.net
I know every baby is different but am so happy that sleep training worked for us.
What I did with my daughter was sit on her bet until she went to sleep, the gradually over time, would sit in the room or just outside the room.
She is now three- we use to close her bedroom door after she fell asleep ( we didn't want our rowdy cats waking her up) but at times she would wake up as we closed the door. Now we leave her door open all the time at night. We close our door when we go to bed.
I think she likes to hear that we are still in the house. We keep the lights off or low on her side of the house.
My daughter had a problem at about the same age after our dog died and whenever she was teething. What I did that worked was tell her during the day that she was safe and that it would be really good for her to sleep during the night and that mommy and daddy and god look out for her while she sleeps. That was it. I promise it really worked. She slept for the first time in 3 weeks after that conversation. Sweet dreams!
