Sleep Help for 13 Month Old

If it was me, I would take one step at a time. First tackle getting her back into her crib. Then once she has that mastered being back in her own crib for a few weeks, then try moving the crib into her own room. It might be faster to do it all at once, but might be a lot more painful for all of you. When it is time to move her to her own room, you could even try having her take her naps in her own room first (maybe in a pack and play) and get her used to that before moving her crib in there at night. Good luck!!

My Son went in his Own room at 8 Months old we let him help move stuff..Then he played in it all day had his Nap Cryed about 10 Minutes and Wet rite to sleep..Sleep for a 3 hour Nap...Then he got up played all afternoon and night in is room at his choice his door was open and he could come in and out was a small apt that Night was the first time he sleep all night 9pm to 7am he cryed maybe 5 Minutes woooHoooo Mommy and Daddys Big Boy..Some times the cry it out does work so well if you can make it the short time it takes them..I was on the Phont crying for 10 Minutes to my Mom as it hurnt to let him Cry he is know 20 Months old and has been in his own room even at our new house with out any trouble and still sleeps so well 98% of the Time Well i wish you lots of Luck

T. AkA Mommy2Kenneth

That sounds exactly like my daughter. She accually slept in my bed last night because she has a cold, the hubby slept on the floor. She was in our room until she was 13 months old and my husband worked nights so she was in bed with me every night. It was so hard to get her in her bed but she did it quick. I kept her crib in my room because thats where she felt safe and i would put her to bed and leave the room, if i was in there she would try to get sympathy. And when she was about 14 months old we moved across the country adn she got her own room in the new apartment. And she did fine.

V., I love when people say just let them cry it out and in 3 days she should adjust. It is not always this easy. Every child is different, and if the whole crying it out works like that then great. But that did not work for me. My daughter only slept in her crib for a couple of months, and she always wound up in our bed. I tried the crying it out routine. I put her to bed when she was really really tired. I went back in every ten min. Didn't say anything just let her know i was there. She cried for 4 hrs. I just couldn't take it. She had hives in her face from crying. I was crying. Finally one of my friends said is this working for you? I realized that it worked better for us to just get a full night sleep. I talked with my pedo about it. He said whatever works for your family. He said She will still get on the bus and go to kindergarten, she will grow the same. At that point my husband and i did what worked for us, and that was having her in our bed. We all slept and it was great. The waking up issue did not go away for us untill she was off the bottle. It was so funny though b/c I had the most beautiful nursery for her, and she never even slept in there. Then when she was 2.5 we moved to a new house, and I let her help me decorate her room. We bought her a big queen bed, and she has not been in our room since. So I guess what my advice is, is to do what works for you! My thought is that it is going to be a hard transition, b/c she has always been in your room, even in the crib. So i would not tramatize her all at once, I would try getting her back to her old routine, and then put her in her room. Is the crib on wheels? I would say once you get her back in her crib in your room. Then when she falls asleep wheel the crib into her room so she will wake up there. Just some ideas, but every child is different. Like my pedo always said to me, some babies are really good sleepers, and MOST are not. That is just one opsticle of parenting. Good Luck, and do what makes you happy.

We have done many things with our son as in getting him to sleep and having him sleep with us. We did not get stricter about him falling asleep in his crib/bed until he was closer to 2 years by a few months.
I would nurse him to sleep then put him in his crib- if he woke up we would most likely bring him in with us being too sleepy to deal with it.
We would hang out with him in his room until he fell asleep- dh would do this when he was not falling asleep while nursing at bedtime... so we would nurse in another area and dh would put him to bed... and again if he woke up we would just bring him in with us.
There was a caviat- if he was not a good bed partner and thrashed and giggled and was "up" and would not settle down and go to sleep we would put him in his own crib again (most likely after nursing.) This happened most likely if it was enough to wake ME up. He would cry and fall asleep- or keep fussing- we would bring him back in and he would settle down. We made sure to teach him that our bed was for sleeping; not 3am midnight madness funhouse.
At 17 months he was able to hoist his one whole leg over the side and he was waiting for me to see him be able to fall over the side- I was in there in a rocking chair not engaging but being present so he could fall asleep on his own. He was on a mattress on the floor the next day. (that was and is about the only thing in his room- we keep his clothes in a closet.) We put a gate up and let him fall asleep wherever. He soon discovered that it was more fun to fall asleep on the mattress. This was combined with laying with him to fall asleep for about 3 months.
I just could not let him cry himself to sleep in those early years.
What I am saying is... (in short :) ) is if it is working for you 3 for her to sleep with you now- don't worry about it. If it is not working for you- you can start another plan but don't be afraid to try and tinker with it.

Hi V.,
I recommend that you have your daughter do the transition all at once. It generally takes 3 nights to train a child to adjust to a new routine. If you stick to your decision and not give in, your daughter will adjust nicely. She will cry, but just go into her room and stearnly tell her it is night night time and leave. If you stay in her room and accomodate her, it will be a waste of time for you all. She will adjust fine.
Good luck!

V.,
A friend of mine went through the same thing. She ended up putting her daughter in her crib in her own room. The unfortunate thing was that her daughter did cry, however it got better and better each day. Now her daughter doesn't cry when put in the crib anymore. Good luck! And keep your head up if she does end up crying with whatever you decide to do! :)

It will take a week put her in her room put the moniter on and she will cry for maybe 2 hours. I know it hurts=( but she will realize that you are not coming back and every nite she will cry less until she stops completely. My son was 19 mths when we did it. Until then he had not slept all nite now I sleep!*-*
GOOD LUCK! ps My son used to also throw up .. He got over it!

My advice would be to simply to take baby steps and not expect to make the transition in a set amount of time. Get her used to one thing at a time, and it will be less traumatic for all involved. Try changing one thing at a time in the bedtime routine & try to avoid making another change until she's mastered the previous change. I expect you might be surprised how little time it takes and with less emotional upheaval for all. It's probably also best to start on a "good" day for her (i.e., regular naps, good mood all day).

We had our daughter in bed with us for her first few months, and transitioned her to her own crib by trying one night a week for a couple weeks, then trying two nights, etc. We, like you, had brought her back in with us for a period of time, and then got her back into her crib gradually. We've had to do this at least a couple of times.

You might also have to work through the transition of getting her into the crib by putting her down when sleepy, but not asleep and then staying with her until she drops off - you've probably heard all that before. My husband and I have also set a rule to not pick up our daughter, once in her crib, unless she's really inconsolable - or on her way to getting herself worked into a frenzy. One of us also tend to stay in the room with her until she's drowsy enough.

Every child is different though. Just try to strike the balance between setting the course you want, and following her cues.

Good luck - and happy birthday to your little one!

Hi V.,

Just so you know, you are not alone. I have a 1 year old son and I'm in the same position. I can't deal with the crying for a long time either and he will NOT stop. I've tried to put him in his crib for naps and he'll sleep for 20 minutes. If he sleeps in my bed, he'll sleep for 2 hours. I'm also a sahm and it wears on getting other things done sometimes. I don't have any great advice as of yet but I fully support your decision whatever it is. I hope you find something that works great for all of you. I find that sometimes just knowing that there is support for my decisions helps me be a little more brave. Good Luck!!

Hey V.!

I'd say put her in her crib in her own room all at once. Have you ever seen that show SuperNanny? Ive seen several episodes of families dealing with kids who don't want to get rid of their pacifiers, their bottles, or go to bed in their own room (or at all for that matter ha ha). One thing I really appreciate about the Nanny's techniques is that she always stresses consistency and a schedule. If you have a bedtime ritual, then your daughter will get used to the routine and bedtime will be much easier. It works even now with my 7 year old. It won't be easy to do, but if you stay consistent and follow through without slacking even once (or even a little bit) it will all work out. Remember, they say it takes us adults 21 days to make a habit. I'm sure a similar rule applies for kids.

Hang in there....

R. :)

I think you have to put the crib in her own room and go cold turkey. It will be harder on you than it will be on her. I never let my kids sleep in our bed, although I understand how easy it would be to let that happen. I did however, have trouble getting my one year old to sleep in her crib. I got into the habit of rocking her, and to make a long story short, it would take me hours to get her to bed. I finally decided that it was ridiculous, and came up with a plan. The trick is to have a strict night time routine. Ours was dinner at 5, bath by 6, read stories, and go to bed by 7. I also took away her afternoon nap. She took a nice long morning nap before lunch. This meant that she was really tired by bedtime. At first, it was hard to put her to bed and resist the urge to rock her. But what I did was sit in a chair a couple feet away from her crib and she cried for a little while, but I knew she was OK. After a couple of days she cried less and less, and I moved the chair further and further out of the room. After about a week, she went to bed like an angel every night by 7(more or less), and I never made the same mistake with any of our children. Bedtime is bedtime and there is no negotiating. I have learned that the most important things I do as a parent are the hardest. It will be a long difficult week for you, but it is the best thing for you and your child. Hang in there, and be tough!