Start putting her to bed early in the evening with a peaceful bedtime routine that gives her cues that sleep is near (i.e. lower the lights, bathtime if that relaxes her, reading, cuddling, sound machine, saying "i love you", putting her in the crib, rubbing her back, etc). Do these in the same order each night. Infants also sleep better at night if they nap well during the day.
But please keep in mind that the way infants sleep has more to do with their temperament and less to do with how us moms and dads "train" them.
In regard to your specific questions: Babies naturally outgrow the swaddle when they become strong enough to breakout of it consistently. The pacifier is a great alternative if you are unwilling to feed during the night. Is there a reason that you don't want to swaddle your daughter or have her use a pacifier for self-soothing?
Also, if you are breastfeeding avoid eating foods for dinner that might keep her up like spicy foods, high fat and protein dishes. If you are nursing please seriously reconsider sleep training until your daughter is older as breastmilk is more easily digested than formula.
I fully understand wanting a good night sleep. I have 2 little ones and when we go through times of teething or illness I get why sleep depravation is a form of torture. There are other ways to help children sleep better without "sleep training". I found the No Cry Sleep Solution worked wonders for our family - http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/books/0071381392.php?nid...
"Sleep training" is a relatively new concept that come on the parenting scene. I see it as a fad. Think about all those thousands of years that humans have been raising their young and they all managed to learn to sleep with out being "trained". And in all honest when you "sleep train" you aren't teaching your child to sleep. You are teaching them that you cannot be depended on and will not be there when she needs you the most.