"Six Years Old Girl Don´t Integrates with the Classmates That She Want to Share

Kids can be mean. Tell your daughter under no circumstances can she allow anyone to hit or kick her or touch or try to injure her. Hillary Clinton tells a story that bullies hurt her each day when she was your daughters age and her mother told her go out there and punch them right back! I don't like hitting back but walking away and finding someone else's company to enjoy or some toy to amuse yourself with is a way to deal with bad treatment. Tell your daughter those kids just haven't learned to behave yet. Tell her she is a good and generous friend and that she might be able to teach them to treat her better by telling them no hitting or stop that. Don't try to buy her friends by inviting the badly behaved ones over to play. When you invite ask them have you learned to play fairly? Tell them you will send them home at the first sign of trouble no matter who causes it. Children don't care about skin color but they do like to gang up on each other. When my son was three a day care teacher taught me something. The tattletales cried to her that someone was hitting and she said , that is why he is her to learn how to behave. Stay generous and in charge and don't let behavior get out of control. Remember too your good toys may be causing jealousy. Love to you and your family.

Dear N.,
I hear that you are worried that your daughter is not being accepted by her classmates because of her skin color. PLEASE stop thinking like that because she will feel that you expect it. If the children are accepting invitations to come to your home to play, I am sure there is no racism involved. My experience has always been (and my kids are all teens now and it is still true) that a lot of other parents were just lazy about playdates; happy to send their kids to my house, but not so happy to host. I don't think you should be inviting the kids who are rude. I think you are teaching your daughter the wrong lessons if you buy her good toys for acceptance and invite rude kids to your home. Instead, perhaps you can help your daughter to discern which of the kids in her class are the NICE ones who don't behave like that and encourage her to want to play with them. I believe there is a great opportunity here for you to teach your daughter to make good choices instead of feeling like something is wrong with her because those brats are bratty!!!
Good luck!!!
: )
S.

It is not okay for this to happen, I am sorry you have to deal with it. I can tell you it has NOTHING to do with her skin color. My son deals with this same problem, he also is socially immature (he actually acts 6 while other children his age are acting like pre-teenagers.)
I will keep you in my positive thoughts that this stops happening to you too.

how awful!

I would make a conference w/ you, the teacher & the counselor. if there is no counselor (there are counselors at public schools), then an Administrator should be there, too.

I would also find out from the teacher of another NICE girl in the class. Invite this girl over WITH HER MOTHER.
You sit with the mother and discuss friendship, etc.
See how the girl acts with her mother there.
If it goes well, then she may come to your house without her mother next time.

When children come over, you tell the rules.
You have them talk about their issues, giving them each a turn & helping them come up with their own solutions...

hang in there!

I agree with the other posters - this is absolutely NOT a racial situation. If it was, they would not be coming to your house. Kids can be mean and that's what this is. That being said, I know how hard it is to see your baby's feelings get hurt. Try to find her a "best friend" maybe that she shares a common interest with and who she enjoys interacting with. She doesn't need to be friends with every kid in the class; she just needs one or two really good friends that she can talk to play with and confide in as she gets older.

Hi N.
This situation is very common between kids. I do not think that there is any race discrimination here. I am a teacher, elementary teacher and I see this situation in a daily basis. But what I feel is that the teacher is not doing her job. She should engage that group with your child in order to make them share time together, maybe a project, or a competition, where your baby has to be envolved.
She is supposed to speak with these other children about the peers relationship, and how they should be friends. I believe the teacher has the key for the solution of your girl's situation. Otherwise there is suppose to be a Social Worker at the school. Try to speak with her about this situation to see how she can work with it. Remember that all of these kids are more or less the same age, so all of them are babies. The problem is not between them, but maybe some ignorant adults that do not know how to accept people just like they are, specially childre. If you do not find any help, you can maybe think about changing the school.

i am so sorry to hear about the disgusting way that your daughter is being treated. i don't have any ideas on how to help other than finding a different school or if possible a different class. that teacher is wrong, she should be doing something to help protect your child from these other children instead of trying to blame your daughter, even if your daughter was acting the way she says, that is still unacceptable that the teacher would handle the situation the way she is. i would also go straight to the principal and file a complaint, if that does not work then go to the school board and file a complaint with them. no child should have to endure what your daughter has gone through. take a stand for your daughter and do what you need to do to change her environment. my heart goes out to you and i hope your situation will get better.