Sister in Law Driving Me Crazy!

Updated on July 14, 2007
N. asks from Stevens, PA
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Okay, here's the dilemma. We booked our vacation months ago for Cape May to begin on a particular day in August. My husband's sister, who is apparently planning her own wedding shower, has scheduled her EVENING wedding shower for the same Saturday we are to leave for vacation. None of us are in the wedding party, including my 2 year old- the only baby in the extended family (another sore subject for my husband because friends are in the wedding but no family. Are we huge jerks if we do not go? The reasoning for the date is the groom's mom can only fly in 2 different weekends in August (the wedding is in October by the way). By etiquette do I have to forfeit a day at the beach (150.00 by the way) to go to this? THis will entail us packing up the car for the beach and toting my 2 year old to VA for an EVENING shower and then driving 4 more hours to the beach. At night. I just feel if it was important to her for us to be there she would have double checked when we were on vacation (she says she thought we were going in August). When we spoke about this yesterday I reminded her and asked if this was set in stone or if she could move it to the other weekend. She said no.

Should I be so furious?

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K.E.

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Don't get mad - it's a waste of time. You can't control other people's actions, you can only control your reactions. Your plans were made long before, so as far as etiquette is concerned, you RSVP with regrets and send a gift. It is impossible to plan around everyone, just as she won't change her plans for you.

Enjoy your vacation and don't let her get to you. Some people don't see family as being overly important. It's not worth you getting upset over - that won't change her. I've wasted a lot of time on agonizing over things others do and say and I've learned that it's just not worth it.

Best of luck,
K.

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L.R.

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N.,

Sounds like we have the same sister in law. I would go to the beach. Your plans were made before hers. Go to the beach and have a good time. She should understand. You can't make everyone happy. Look out for you and your family ( meaning your daughter and husband) I would send a gift and go on my way. Have a good time and the beach. You deserve to get away !

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A.G.

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Go to the beach! Send a gift and apologize for not being able to attend. You made these plans first and you don't wanna waste $150. I know, I wouldn't.
Enjoy your vacation

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K.C.

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I agree go to the beach.

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L.O.

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no you do not have to be there. send a gift and your regrets for not being able to attend.

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