Ok Moms! Here goes....I have been married to my dear husband for almost 2 and a half years. his former wife...well, is not so pleasant. Shocking, right? Well, after she has tried to make our life a living h--l and got her kids to hate me on and off she is now in a situation that might be good for us. My stepdaughter who just turned 14, loves it here. She has her own bedroom and we take her to counseling (ordered by the judge and mom does not)...she is doing better in school since her mom started a new job and we have been picking her up every night. Well, here is the sticky part....she is being evicted and moving into an apartment that only has 2 bedrooms. The mom, sister who is 21, brother who is 17, and her at 14. All in 2 bedrooms! We live close in the same town. Unfortunately she will be changing her middle school (dumb districts). And since that will be happening, she will be going to the same school our home is in. We have so many legal fees and to email my husbands attorney will cost 50 bucks...so, i wanted to try this. Does anyone have any advice on this? Is there a law that states how many people per dwelling especially when they are teens? There has to be something we can do, she wants to live here too. I know with her being 14 she should be able to come, but again...we have spent almost 20 grand since we have been married due to all the games the mother has played. I want to be smart and do the right thing! HELP!
Most towns/villages/cities say no more than 2 people per bedroom, so if it's a 2 bedroom, 4 people can live there...the town doesn't know, though, that in this circumstance there will be three in one room and one in the other. Call - see what they say...it's free to file a concerned citizen complaint!
I would call the municipal office of the city/town that you are in and ask about residency per apartment. Most cities would be glad to answer any questions that you have.
There is only one way that I would pursue this and that is to do it legally. That way you do not have the flip floppy back and forth thing going on! My son thought he ws ready for this last year, but he wasn't(16 yo living with dad). IF she is prepared to go before a judge, possibly in front of Mom and Dad and tell the judge that she wants to live with you, then you should pursue it! At age 14 she is able to choose which parent she wants to live with. There would be very little, if any of a custody battle in this situation. The key is, she has to be ready, willing and consistant when speaking to the judge or family mediator. Depending on the divorce decree you may have to go before a mediator first. But, If she is ready and means it..call the lawyer!
I am not an authority on any of this but I do know you can contact your department of housing in your village or town or city. And it is in writing (very important for documentation) the amount of people per dwelling. That would be free at least. Sorry about the rest.
My husband helps run an apartment complex. For a 2 bedroom apartment you can have up to 4 people live there. As for minors, males and females over 10 cannot share a room. So the boy would have to have his own room. I'm not sure but I think there is a certian number of square feet to a room people sleep in to determine how many can be in each room but that is for fire code. As far as you know the daughters will have one room, the boy another, and the mom have the couch.
My brother went through a divorce and when he moved out of the apartment he shared with his former evil b- uh I mean wife, she had to move out too because she could not afford the rent.
She had planned on moving in with her friend into a 2-bedroom apartment (she has custody of their 9 year old son), but the judge nixed that super-fast because she 'had' to have a dedicated 'bedroom' space for the son. She tried pulling the wool over the judge's eyes and doing it anyway, but got busted.
Check to see what the laws are; you might be on to something.
