M.B.
Hi Momma of 4,
This is a very frustrating situation I too have found myself in with my son. After much stewing and angry thought I reached my conclusion and I am so glad that I did. I am taking my son to all of his activities( and paying for them all) on my own. This is challenging to accomodate at times and with other little ones it gets to be so overwhelming but I am so glad I looked past my issues and put his needs first. Taking my son has allowed me to have a special connection with him that his Dad has passed on. I am familiar with all of his coaches, what he's doing, how to help him practice, and I know all of his friends in those activities. I also LOVE sneaking him away for extra time that normally he would be with his father so that we can do the extra activities. My son realizes that I do this for him and feels more comfortable with me there now than anyone else. I am the first one he runs to when he has an accomplishment that is hug-worthy at one of his special events:-)(and yes his dad shows up to karate tests,games, and the majo events to show off his son to all of his family while I do all the hauling to practices!)
Best of luck and remember to cherish the kids while you have them:-)