Should I Stay or Should I Go Pretty Long

M.,
You posted a question almost a year ago about your husband's drinking. If he has a drinking problem, it may well be the root of all of these problems: his attitude, his financial irresponsibility, the "unbearable moments".

I suggested Alanon then, and again, I suggest you attend a few Alanon meetings so you can learn what parts of your marriage are impacted by his drinking and how to cope with that.

If he is an alcoholic, then nothing is going to change, it will only get progressively worse over time.

****big hugs**** lots of hard decisions you have to make. My advice is you will absolutely know when enough is enough. Until then just save, save, save. It took me 10 yrs to get out of my abusive marriage but when enough was enough I was gone.

Talk to a counselor. They will help you sort this out. You shouldn't have to live like this. There has to be a way to get some advice in this situation. Good luck!

I am sorry to hear that. Try to get far, far away from him. Sounds like he won't change and is an alcoholic. Your son will do better if he sees you happy either by yourself or with someone who treats you with respect. Good luck.

You poor thing. Don't let him make you think that you are stupid, broke or can't do anything without him. The only people that put other people down are insecure, unconfident and mean. Let him think that everything is the same old same old. And you don't let on.
Then you save, you plan, and you get help to take care of yourself and your son. You don't need him. There are people and groups out there to help you get your feet under you. Get a plan, and get out.
You are worth it. Your son is worth it. You can do better.

Do you have friends or family???
He should not be a joint holder on YOUR credit card. It is YOUR credit history etc. And HE maxes them out....

I don't know what other issues you both have.
Has it always been this way? Or only recently?
He sure sounds like an Alcoholic.....
Or has depression... AND Alcoholism....

Or he is just a dead-beat. Not all problems like this, are due to mental illness or depression. Sometimes, some people are just.... not much there.

Have you both every gone to Counseling?

Hard to say, what his and your problems are...
was he like this before you got married?
Or just after you got married?
Or just after you had a child?
Or just always?
Is he employed???????????????????
He also talks.... really badly to you....
is he Abusive??????????????????????
He sure acts it........
How does he treat your child???????????????????????????????

Many issues here.... but, you need to SMARTLY have a PLAN for yourself... if you do leave. Tell your family/friends. Get help.... do NOT tell your Husband... or he may get violent or try to get you out of revenge etc.
Be SMART... no matter what course of action you take. Either on your own, or with him... IF he goes to Counseling or something.

If he harms you or your child, call the Cops.

I feel like I lived in your shoes and have been out of my first marriage for four and a half years. My daughter was two when we got divorced and I feel like I gave it everything that I had to try to make it work and keep it together just like it sounds like you have, but when my two year old daughter started asking me why I was crying at night I decided that wasn't how I wanted her to grow up and that in the long run I would be doing me and her both a favor. I don't know if anyone else's situation can fully compare to yours but I hope you find support by knowing you are not alone and happiness is out there just waiting for you.