Should I Let My Lil Girl Go with Her Daddy.

T.
I don't blame you for being concerned, after all your daughter's health and well being are your main priority. If I were in your position I don't think I'd let her go overnight at least not at her age. A good solution might be to start small. Let him take her for an hour or two. A trip to the park, children's museum, the zoo, something for him to do one on one with her. I'd personally leave overnight for later (closer to school age)so she be able to voice her concerns or worries to you in the event that something you deem inappropriate happens.
Best of luck with your lil girl
C.

HI T.,
The best advice I can give you is trust your instincts. I wouod NOT let her go with him right now...NO WAY. I am not sure what kind of person he is but f you and his girlfriend don't get along she could take that out on your daughter. Also, if you are concerned about te people he hangs out with you have every right to not allow her to go rihgt now. She is way to little and as long as he sees her, spends some time alone with her, calls and tells her he loves her there is no reason to go any further if you are uncomfortable with that. Good luck to you and good job on doing this by yourself and staying home with your little one!

I first of all want to say good job for being a stay at home single mom, and being there for her no matter what!!! I am in a very similar situation, except, i have a temporary cstody order saying her father only has 2 hours at a time with my daughter. You need to do what feels best for you, if you think his girl friend, or friends pose a risk, keep her with you, if he doesn't pose a risk let him visit her, but as far as over nights go, it might be best if she stays with you. Trust your self, daddys are important, but right now mom my is number one!! She won't actually need lots of time with daddy till she is 3 or so, then it is more important for her to break away from mommy so to speak, Your daughter needs you, and if you are the one with her every night, she is gonna want you in the middle of the night. If he is safe, and he wants to be a daddy, let him see her, and spend tiome with her, but trust your instincts about thenight time thing, you know whats best for her. GOOD LUCK!!

I have an almost 1 year old son. My parents, who are both nurses and my mother has worked in the ER for 30 years, have been asking me to take my son overnight for months. There's no way, at this point in his life, that I would let him go overnight anywhere without me. I trust my parents with his life completely and they don't have any negative influences in their life, it's just not appropriate, to me, when my son is this age.
As far as the whole not letting her go with hit at all, by doing that you're not letting her be a part of his life and know him. He is her father, as you said. Try to start off with a couple of hours when it won't mess up her schedule during the day. Keep track of what you send, like amount of diapers and formula, and check your daughter out from head to toe. When she gets back, do the same. If she hasn't been changed or fed or has any markings on her, then obviously you won't send her again.
If you still don't want to send her, then you won't. If her father really wants to see her, he'll take you to court for visitation. If that happens, just voice all of your concerns to the judge. If anything negative does happen, like involvement with law enforcement or threats to you, make sure you write down everything and date it. We had to take my son's(technically stepson) mother to court when she was younger(she's GREAT now) because of people she associated with and things that transpired when he was with her.

First I can sympathize with you. I have an 8yr old daughter and she's been going with her father since she was 6 months old. Second I would try to get in touch with a lawyer and see what you can do to get a custody agreement set up and if you aren't recieving child support I would also look into that. The state actually can do that for you, it takes some time but its a free service and it works ( I had to go to them when my child's father started to flake on his support.

If your daughter doesn't really know him or see him often then I would not allow her to spend the night. I would let him maybe take her for an hour or two and that is it. Start out slow and get to know the girlfriend, I'm sure this will be painful but it will help make things easier in the long run provided that she sticks around.

I just noticed that this was from a month ago, I hope things have worked out for you.

T.,
I would hesitate too! She's still so young, and wouldn't even be able to verbalize to you if it's a bad scene at her dad's. I would totally wait til she's at least old enough to talk.