I am having a dillema about my Dr. My best friend recommended him to me as she had been seeing him since she was 17. I had been pregnant 4 years ago and I ended up miscarrying. He took great care of the situation and of me, having to have a D and C. He took good care of me during pregnancy with my daughter as well. He didn't happen to be on duty when I delivered, though. The new situation is with my little sister. She started to go to him. She is 15 wks. with her second. She started bleeding and went to emergency. They took ultrasounds and saw a tear in the placenta. During the follow up with the OB, he told her she could continue normal activity and she may bleed for a couple weeks. She was not happy with that an sought a second opinion. When the new OB did an US, he found that the placenta had torn 50% and told her if she continued normal activity, she would lose the baby. Now anything could have happened in 3 days, but she would have continued bleeding not knowing that she was continuing to tear and could have lost the baby. I know that my OB would not intentionally put anyone or their baby in harms way, but this really upset me that it doesn't seem he did enough to examine the problem. I cannot handle my little sis going through a miscarriage, as I have had that painful experience. She is now on bed rest for a few weeks to help heal the tear. Hubby and I are getting ready to start on #2. Do you think I should go back to him, or find a new OB?
Thanks for your advice. Unfortunately because of the right to privacy, my doctor is not allowed to discuss my sister's situation with me. I told my friend about it and she said even though she had a long relationship with that doctor, she probably would have gotten a second opinion as well. But she also said he wouldn't intentionally put her in that situation, That is why they call it "practicing" medicine. They make mistakes, and anything could have caused the placenta to tear more in those 3 days, but because he told her to expect more blood, she could have gone on not knowing that it was still tearing. I guess he did what he thought was best from the ultrasound he saw, but he should have at least told her to rest more instead of continuing normal activity. I will ask her if she has heard from him and what she thinks, but I think the idea of having a backup is good. I was thinking of the one that delivered my daughter. She was nice.
I think I would probably go to a different doctor. If you need help with a problem during pregnancy you don't want to be second guessing whether your doctor has given you the right information. You could also try talking to your doctor about your concerns with your sister (if you think he is open to that conversation).
S.
I agree with Tanya. No matter how much you love your ob/gyn, you need to TRUST them! If you have doubts about the quality of care, unintentional as it may be, you need to find someone you do trust.
IF you just cannot bring yourself to change, you should definitely look for someone as a back-up should a questionable situation arise with your upcoming pregnancy.
I hope all goes well with your sister and good luck to you as well!
It's hard to say if it's a bad call on your doctors part or an over reaction of the other doctor, since medicine isn't an exact science.
Doctors opinions differ greatly. I always refer to webmd.com for up to date info. I breastfed while pregnant with my second son and my doctor told my that I must wean immediatly and that I couldn't VBAC and wouldn't be able to find a doctor that would.
After reading on webmd.com and askdrsears.com that breastfeeding while pregnant is safe for most women (it's rare to get really strong contarctions from breastfeeding) and that vbac was my best option, I switched doctors.
I told my new Dr that I was breastfeeding and she wasn't thrilled, but she didn't panic like my first doctor. She also said that I could try a VBAC.
If you feel uneasy with him, I say switch. You don't want to be in the middle of labor doubting your doctors desicions.
Yeah I'd go to a new OB.
