Wow.
Well all I can say is, perhaps find another more competent OB/GYN.
Next, I was 38, when I was pregnant with my first child, and got pregnant naturally. I had a long labor as well, 14+ hours, and ended up with an emergency c-section. In the ultrasound I had prior, they thought my daughter had a heart problem... one chamber missing. It was scary to say the least and traumatic. We saw specialists, I had an Amniocentesis, and all was fine, test wise. A Pediatric Heart specialist also did a special ultrasound, and he deemed my daughter to be fine. She WAS born fine and is a normal healthy 6 year old girl now.
Needless to say, it was a traumatic thing to go through. But about 3 years later, I became pregnant again, naturally. It was our choice. We wanted a sibling for our daughter. That pregnancy was a miscarriage. 6 months later, I got pregnant again. With my now healthy and beautiful son, who is now almost 3 years old. With this pregnancy, I was 42 years old. It was a fine, normal, healthy pregnancy. But with his birth, I opted for a c-section. Not a VBAC. And, I had an Amniocentesis with his pregnancy as well. I believe in the Amnio testing. It is the most conclusive.
My point is, each pregnancy is different. And the outcome.
"Age" at time of pregnancy and the woman's health is certainly a factor in the viability and 'health' of the pregnancy. SO, a GOOD OB/GYN is paramount. AND taking prenatal vitamins (even when trying to conceive), and taking any advised testing.
But, there are MANY MANY woman nowadays, that are 35+ in age, and are pregnant. My friend, was 47, when she had her 2nd child. Born healthy and normal.
I was 'scared' to be pregnant again, after the scare we had with my firstborn, and then the miscarriage. BUT... I knew that each pregnancy is different. And,Hubby and I wanted another child. That was the deciding factor for us.
You may want to consult your OB/GYN... to discuss things with, first. AND of course, you need to see if mentally/emotionally you are 'ready' for another pregnancy... and the "what if's."
And I can't emphasize enough, FIND another more experienced OB/GYN and hospital.
All the best,
Susan