Should I Feel Bad About Not Being Able to Take Another Child to School?

No you should not feel bad at all. If the teachers are concerned, one of them can take over for you. If she isn't responding to texts, stop texting her.

You are in NO way obligated to transport a child to a school your child does not attend.

You were very kind to give a good notice so the other parent can find alternate transportation.

It is not fair for the other parent to attempt to put you on a guilt trip and treat you rudely because she is now not getting what she wants. You see her true colors now. It is also not ok for teachers to try to guilt you over it either.

You do what YOU have to do for your family. Things do change and that is OK. You don't OWE anyone anything.

It was nice of you to carpool when you could and nice that you gave notice. There is no reason you need to go out of your way to keep helping when your own circumstances have changed.

If the other mom has stopped talking to you entirely, then you know your only value to her was that favor. Nothing you can do about it but move on.

Nobody can make you feel guilty without your permission.

Of course you shouldn't feel bad. You gave her plenty of notice (which I think is important), and you've been helping immensely all along. Let it go. If she can't be appreciative or polite, ignore it. What texts is she not replying to? If they are related to current carpooling, that's unfair to you. If they are social in nature, let it go. She's probably focusing on finding new arrangements.

I don't know how you know that the teachers are concerned about the other child getting to school, but it's absolutely inappropriate for them to share their thoughts with you in this regard. If the mom is telling you what they think, it's just designed to put pressure on you. Don't buy into it.

I can't imagine why you should... I mean, I guess it's crappy that the mom can't take care of this herself and I probably would feel badly for the child .. but no, I mean - you're not the mom. This is her deal. You can't take on other people's responsibilities. Surely she could carpool with someone else going to the school. She needs to reach out or one of the teachers could reach out to others at the school.

No, not at all.
She is responsible for her own child.

Welcome to mamapedia, L.!

You feel bad because you were helping someone else - who then got accustomed to your help and considered her job done. It's NOT your responsibility to provide rides for her child. If she's upset with you? that's ON HER

Stand up for yourself. You're homeschooling for a reason - to get your child out of the nonsense that can happen in public/private schools. This means that you need to get that backbone to stand up and not feel guilty for something you did out of the kindness of your heart.

How that kid gets to school is not your problem.

Oh brother. You do something nice for someone for a year and this is how you are treated?

This is NOT your responsibility. Stop texting this mother. She is not your friend. Friends don't treat people badly who can no longer help them out. USERS do that. She is a user.

The teachers should not be making comments to you about how this child is supposed to get to school. You are not the mother!! It's the mother's job to figure this out.

No, of course you should not feel obligated. The other mom should be gracious and thankful to you for being able to help her out for as long as you did. What reasonable person would expect you would still be able to drive her child to a school your own child will no longer be attending? You do not make your child's schooling choices to the convenience other families. You did give her plenty of notice. It's understandable that she is frustrated at the challenge of finding new transportation arrangements, but taking that out on you is petty. I wonder if she's feeling a little bit of sting over the loss of your child as a school-friend for her child. That's not an excuse to treat you poorly, but it may be part of the reason why she is creating distance. The teachers should not have made any comments about the other mom's predicament, but it probably wasn't intended to to make you feel bad She's an adult, and I'm sure she is able to figure out her options going forward

Of course you are no longer obligated to take the other child to school, and the parents and teacher know and understand this I am sure. But, that doesn't mean the other parent doesn't also have the right to be unhappy about the sudden change and worried or annoyed about finding a new arrangement. Her annoyance with it doesn't mean you need to feel badly, but she also has a right to her frustration. Give her time and space and once she is no longer dealing with finding a new ride etc I am sure things will get better.

of course not.
it's ridiculous to think that this is your responsibility.
congrats on the decision to homeschool, and learn how to shield better.
khairete
S.

Good grief, don't spend another second worrying about this. The mom had it good with you taking her child and seems to have no appreciation for an entire year of free transport. The teachers chiming in would irk me. I would be the type to speak up to them and ask how and why I am responsible for another person's child. If they are concerned, they can drive the kid or set up another volunteer. I can't believe there is not one other method or person to drive this child to school in the entire town. These people are not worth your while at this point. You owe them nothing.

They should be thankful for you begging able to do it as long as you have