Ok, my son is 4 months old and i have had sex with soon to be husbad only twice since he was born. My problem is it is sometimes painful but I was told that is normal. My main problem is I have NO want for sex. Is that normal or am I weird? I know this may be a weird question but I need some help. Im afriad he will find what he wants somewhere else. HELP!
I was like that too. I soon figured out that it was just because i was so tired. Once I got a good rest I was ready to go again. Try to get some sleep, have him take care of the baby, pamper yourself, then I bet things will change.
It was painful for me for about 2-3 months (burning sensation). Basically, the conclusion I came to is my body was still adjusting to the change. This could also be a vaginal type infection and you should get it checked out. If he truely loves you he will not look anywhere else. He is probably more understanding to your situation than you give him credit for. Just make sure you tell him how you are feeling.
It is totally normal to feel that way. I felt it after both of my children. It took almost a year to get back that feeling after my last one. Most of it is just because you have so much focus on the baby and think of other things that need to be done before you can go to bed. You are warn out and exhausted. Even if you did feel like you wanted to have sex you think you might wake the baby or something. The first few times can be painful since you may have scar tissue. Explain that to your husband. They usually understand. Don't feel like you are the only one that has had that problem. Most women do they just won't admit it. If it really means that much to him talk about some other things that might help to stimulate him. If he loves you he won't go find it elsewhere.
Hi!
Wow, that's a hard one. I'm not yet married to mine either, and about to deliver. One thing I do know is that it takes a long while for the sex drive to come back (this is my second child). If you're nursing, it will take even longer. I worry about the same thing, but I know that as much as we don't think sex should be that important to the relationship, it really is. If it hurts, try something else (which none of us want to do at that particular time, but it sure can help the relationship), but if it doesn't hurt and you just aren't interested, I would really just try. Pick up some sort of sexual book at Barnes and Noble so he knows you're trying. Find something that might pique your interest (though nothing may!) or just remember that at least it probably won't take too long! I'm sorry that I don't have better advice, but I think that the relationship is probably worth the effort, or you wouldn't be on here trying. Good luck to you, and wish me luck, since I'll be there in a week or two!!
