My husband moved out of the house almost 2 months ago...as I look around, go to my kids school it seems that everyone around me is married and happy. I feel so lost, so alone...I'm holding on for and to dear life. He wanted the separation and not me so it is really, really effecting me. I can't eat, concentrate or tend to myself or the kids. If he came back it would be so much better. I can't imagine life without him. He says that he is working on it, what ever that means...he gives me hope at times but often turns around and takes that away. Help! Has anyone else been there...why do I feel so alone.
know you are not alone. as i drove my daughter to preschool and passed "you" in the hall 3 years ago you wouldve thought the same about M. bt behind closed doors I was going through divorce too
I would say get into therpay and heal and learn you are better than what he pottentially offers you
Just know that you're not alone. Many of us have been where you are. Write a list of things to go do and call your friends. You need to get out of the house and continue living. Go do something fun with the kids - without your husband. Your kids lives can't pause while he makes up his mind whether he wants to be with you or not. As hard as it is, you need to do this for yourself and for your children. Don't accomodate everything for him anymore. He doesn't know if he wants to be with you, show him what its like without you. He can't come and go from your house or your bed whenever its convenient for him. Set some boundaries.
Get a journal and write down your feelings. Write out your worst fears. Writing them down won't make them come true, but it always made me feel better after I wrote them out. Find a counselor to help you work through this.
Good luck. Call a girlfriend and just allow yourself to fall apart. He isn't the one to help you through this right now so find someone else who can support you.
So sorry you are going through this. Try and find something to do for yourself, to help get your mind off this and onto something less sad. Also a therapist is a great place to vent all the hurt. Hang in there!!
I'm so sorry you are hurting. I was separated 15 years ago and thought for certain I must be the only mom going through this at my daughter's preschool. Nope, I wasn't and that is where I met my best friend to this day.
I hope you can find the strength to work through this for the good of you and your kids. You mentioned that he is "working on it" and I immediately thought he was with other women. Looked at your post from a year ago and he cheated for almost four years.
I don't see how it would be better for him to come back (when he is hopefully done being a pig). Would an "intact" family be nice? Sure but you need to look at the example being set for your kids. Good luck!!
