My son is 3 1/2 years old. He cries about almost everything from his sock being inside out, to having to pick up his toys, to getting in the car. It seems he cries all the time. Its not really that he is kicking and screaming like a tantrum, he just cries, sobs, his face gets red, and he just can't stop. He's generally a very happy little boy, he's just really sensitive. My husband and I don't know what to do! We've tried everything. Does anyone else have or have had a sensitive child?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I find a lot of times when I get down to my daughter's level and slow down to her pace, she stops or at least slows down. It takes time to get through this transitional time. He is learning that he isn't a baby anymore and that he needs to help Mommy and Daddy, so it will take a while but keep working on him and he will do fine.
D.
I am a mother of three sons; 11, 8 and 5. We have faced many challenges and overcome many obstacles. As for your request, my suggestion is to give your son choices. Of course, do not give him the power to lead the whole day, but small choices are still empowering to young ones. For instance, when it is time to get into the car, ask "Do you want to get in mommy's side of the car or daddy's side?" In asking this, your son will think "Hmmm, I get to make the choices around here", which is true, but at the same time, either option is what is expected of him from you and your husband. Allow choices whenever you can.
That's normal K.! My son was the same way when he was that age. Unfortunately it took quite a few years for him to grow out of it! We'd argue in kindergarten about the seem in his sock. I would have to cut off any extra seem at the ends if it was bugging him. It was horrible. I want to say he got better by 2nd or 3rd grade? I thought I was the only mom w/this problem but as the years have gone on I've heard the same story from alot of parents so I think it's just a stage.
Good luck!
S.
Its interesting to me that all the moms who responded mentioned that they have sons who are sensitive. I have a 6 year old daughter that is very sensitive too. I wasn't sure if it was just a girl thing. The crying and whining started at age three and, I'm happy to say, has dwindled somewhat. I really think school has been the biggest factor. She is my oldest child and I think being around children, and alot of them older than her, has really helped her grow up and out of the whining and crying. She still gets upset easily, but I can talk to her and calm her down much faster now. I would suggest keeping your son socially active. Find playgroups or daycare where he can be around children, possibly slightly older than him, and he can possibly learn and model their behavior. Besides my 6 year old I have a 4 year old daughter (who is not sensitive at all) and a soon to be three year old son. Now I wonder how he will be when he turns three! :-)
Have you ever read the book Raising Your Spirited Child? It describes exactly what you are talking about and helps you view your child's behavior in an understanding and more positive light. I LOVE this book. My 17 month old is very spirited, the book helped me a lot.
http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Percept...
wow this is my son to a T. LOL .. he is soooooooo sensitive. Sometimes I just don't know what to do! If I see he has to go potty. he isnt going I will tell him to go, he will cry. He cries over almost anything if someone has an answer on how to stop this .. it would be nice HEHE!
My son did the same thing. It started around 2 1/2. he is now 4 and is much better. He still has some bouts of it not nearly as often, but for us it was just a phase. At first we tried to fix whatever the problem was but that kind of just made EVERYTHING upset him. Them we decided to go with the "Are you bleeding or broken~no~ well then keep playing" idea. That seemed to help alot. We also had him try and fix the "problem". Like if his fork fell off the table we would have him get down, pick it up and get a clean one. I think it made him realize that he CAN fix some of his own problems, so he was more like a big boy. That probably doesnt work with everyone but after all this is just my opinion and what worked for us.
S.
I think it is just an age thing my son did the exact same thing!!! He is almost 6 now and he will sitll sometimes cry over the littlest things. I think they just have to grow out of it.
Sorry I don't have anything to help!!
