Here's my story. Please advise me on my thinking.....
2 years ago(2006), I lossed twins at 8 weeks pregnant. In 2007(Aug 30), we lossed our baby at 6 months pregnant. Partly because no one would listen to me that I had lost my plug at 5 1/2 months & was leaking fluid, they all kept telling me that I had urinary tract infection & put me on antibiotics. Now, we just found out that we are 5 weeks along. I'm SCARED TO DEATH!!!!!!! I'm trying to think positively, but it is just becoming harder & harder. Grant it, I'm not having any complications. Has anyone else had this happen to them? Does anyone else think like I am/have been?
Well, We did go see a high risk doctor last week. We are also going to see a nurse practitioner & a ob/gyn. We figure that if there are 3 looking out for us/me, the better. We had decided after everything happened last year & that dr said that there was nothing that they could do for me/us, besides refer us to another dr. Funny thing is, this is what has happened to me every year, almost. When they found the cancer, we went to 3 different doctors. With each pregnancy I've/we've had, we've seen different doctors. I thank you all for your advice. I greatlyappreciate it. I'm glad that I can find others for advice/etc.
E.,
You definitely need to seek an obstetrician who specializes in high-risk pregnancies. Depending on where you live, you may to travel a bit, but I think you would feel better. Good luck.
E.,
Pray without ceasing, God will prepare you and be with you and your husband every step of the way. Although I have not been in your situation, I have been battling postpartum depression for quite some time. When I became more active in my church and reading my Bible I am feeling less scared, and nervous everyday. I will pray for you my dear and hang in there!
E., I'm so sorry for your losses but excited for your new arrival. I fully get your concerns, and so should your doctor(s). Being perfectly honest here, I pray you do not have the same doctor with this pregnancy as you did with the priors. Sounds like to me someone is not listening to what you KNOW has happened before. (My daughter has scoliosis, and she has been to at least 10 different doctors in the past 3 yrs, and she FINALLY got someone to listen to her and her problems.)
I've never experienced this personally, but I am a mother, and if you are not getting what you should be getting from your doctor(s) and their care of you and the baby during the pregnancy, I'd be finding someone who would listen. Doesn't matter that you are not having complications right now. You need to find someone who will take care of you and the baby.
E. - First, I'm so sorry that you've had to go through the losses. I know how difficult it is to lose a baby and how terrifying that makes a pregnancy. I had 3 miscarriages over the course of 5 years. When I got pregnant again in 2005 I was terrified that I would lose another baby. Fortunately my doctor was great and kept very close track of everything and I delivered without any complications. Sometimes I think God just has a different plan than we do.
Of course, if you aren't comfortable with the way your doctor handled the last pregnancy I would definitely find a new doctor that understands your concerns and history and will take a more proactive/cautious approach to guiding you through this pregnancy.
Best of luck with everything. Feel free to contact me (____@____.com) if you would like.
J.
Wow sorry to hear of your losses and hope and pray that this pregnancy will go much better for you. I know what it feels like to have a misscarage I had one with our first baby i was told that i lost the baby my first month but when I finally found out I should have been 5 1/2 months along.
I agree with everyone else you really should think about changing doctors if you have not already. You need someone that will lisson to you and your hubby. Gool luck and keep us all posted.
E.,
I would definitely see your OB as soon as possible, and ask for a referral to a high risk OB. I too, started loosing my mucus plug early, luckily my OB caught on to what was happening and sent me straight down the hall to a high-risk OB. Both doctor's consulted me during the rest of my pregnancy.
Since you have a history of complications during pregnancy, they should be able to monitor you more closely. You may also ask your doctor about a circlauge (sp?) and getting progesterone shots, both are given to women who have a history of pre-term births and other complications.
My OB Dr. Heather Summers is fantastic and she referred me to Dr. Fred Fumia, who is high-risk. They are both out of St. Francis Health System.
Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I am so sorry for your losses. I lost a baby at 7 weeks (in October 2005) and when I called the doctor's office, they pretty much told me to try again. Needless to say, that was the last time I saw that doctor. My point with that is, find a doctor who will listen to you and that you feel comfortable with. That will lessen your stress in this pregnancy.
I now have 13 month old twins and my OB saw me every week and did a sonogram from 16 weeks on. He said that it probably wasn't necessary to do the sonograms every time, but just seeing the babies made my anxiety less.
I know it's hard not to think about what happened in the past, but try to stay positive. This pregnancy is completely different than the others. I wish you the best of luck.
I lost a baby in November at just a few weeks along and then found out we were expecting again in December. I had some spotting pretty early on, so I have been getting weekly bloodwork and sonograms every 2 weeks. Insist that your doctor is monitoring your hormones, even if you aren't having complications yet. They should consider your previous miscarriages and pay extra attention to how your pregnancy is progressing. My progesterone was low, which is probably why I lost the first baby, so had they not done the bloodwork and caught it I probably would have lost this one too. Best of luck to you, and don't hesitate to insist on good medical care.
E.,
I recommend the website www.pregnancyloss.info. It helped me a lot after my miscarriage two years ago and also during two subsequent pregnancies. The best advice I can give you comes from this website. During pregnancy, you can choose to live in fear, pain, and anger, or you can choose to enjoy the pregnancy and live in excitement, happiness, and love. I know that's easier said than done, but I've achieved it with a lot of prayers and support. I'm currently 11 weeks pregnancy, and was a little concerned about 4 weeks ago when I became less nauseous. But I told myself that unless I have a reason to be worried (heavy bleeding and cramping), there's no point in worrying because I can't do anything about it anyway. So check out the website, talk to loved ones and God, and try to learn to let go. Best of luck!
A.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I have miscarried twice myself and then with my second child my water broke at 22 weeks along. I was flown to a hospital two and a half hours from home where I stay in bed for 8 weeks to the day before he was born. I was able to stay pregnant with my water broken for 8 full weeks, he was 31 weeks 3 days gestation when he was born. He nearly died in the delivery room and then was in the NICU for 6.5 weeks before we went home. Thankfully, he has no long term consequences as far as we can tell.
Anyway, where I was going is, with my next pregnancy I was TERRIFIED that the same thing would happen again and there was a good chance that it would. Thank goodness it did, but I was so worried the whole time. Do they know what caused the problems with the second pregnancy? Maybe there is something medically related that the Dr.s can treat. I was given hormone injections once a week. If not all you can do is be at peace that you are doing the best you can with what you have. Eat, rest, have healthy habits and what's meant to be will. That was the only thing that kept me from making myself crazy. Sometimes it is just out of our hands...I wish the best for you!
So very sorry for your losses. We lost twins at 6 mos. I definitely understand your holding back on this pregnancy, i was scared death with our daughter. Make sure your doctor is doing eveyrthing possible and considering you high risk (more frequent visits, and early cerclage and progesterone injections as well as putting me on restricted movement is what all our dr did), and make sure you're taking care of yourself, thats all you can do, I dont think anyone can tell you not to be scared, i wish you a happy healthy baby in your arms in 9ish!
