Seeking Moms Who Could Give Ideas What Could Work on My Child as Far as Displine

The one thing that my children hate is the corner. My husband-to-be is in the military and when the boys need to be disciplined and the corner doesn't work they do 10 push-ups each. They have gotten to the point where they prefer the push-ups to the corner because they can get the chore done and then go play sooner.

My prediatrician recommended a book called 1,2,3 Magic......it has worked wonders for my toddler! I found it on Amazon for like 10 dollars too.

what have you tried?

we use timeouts in the bedroom if my girls even are screaming at us. or have her sit in the corner. take away certain things she likes. we do spankings, but i dont think that would work for your child.

I don't think you should ever have to hit a child or hurt a child to displine them. You need a confident voice and the commitment and energy to be quick, decisive and consistent.

My son is 18 months old and has been testing the rules now and then. We keep the rules simple. No buttons on the DVD player, no throwing food, be still on the changing table, no hitting, etc. He gets one nicely worded warning and if he disobeys then he gets removed to his playpen immediately with a simple and quick scolding for a 2 minutes time-out. For a 3 year old you can have a time-out chair in an isolated corner.

I've noticed that he's better behaved if I spend quality time playing with a few minutes here and there during the day. "Feeding the Meter". Also, if he's deliberately breaking rules left and right he's usually tired, hungry, in pain or board.

I really like Baby Wise and Happiest Toddler on the Block for references.

I highly recommend the book "1, 2, 3, Magic!" You can find it at your local library- we have done this with our daughter and it works amazingly well! She caught on to the technique very quickly, and it even works when we are outside the home. Our daughter is 27 months old, and since starting the 1,2,3, routine she is very well behaved!
Good luck!

I sent my then three year old daughter home to my grandmother to spend the summer. When she came home she was cursing, stomping, hitting, and had a really bad attitude. Spanking in these situations usually makes its worse. They are already mad so this usually just makes them madder. She had on these sunglasses and she took them off and threw them down. I told her to pick them up. So she snatched them up. I told her to pick them up nicely, so of course she snatched them up. So I stood there and made her pick them up "nicely" about 15 times until she got the idea. Everytime she did something with an attitude I would make her redo it until she did it nicely. That included stomping off. Suffice to say she knows what I mean when I say do it "nicely". It still works!!!! And sometimes she even tells me do it nicely mommy!!

Oh and never let her hit you...serious consequenses for that...If she thinks it is okay to you she will proably think its okay to hit other children and then you will have another problem on your hands!!!!

Have your tried changing his diet?

My son gets crazy and out of sort when he eats gluten (wheat) also with corn syrup or any sugar. He can eat apples and banana's etc....

you might try it for two days and see how he does. I know most toddlers live on snacks and lots of carbs. trader joes offers lots of inexpensive alternatives, including nuts, my son loves cashews.

good luck

We had same problem we got a video called 123 magic and it works.You can rent dvd or vhs at local library u would really like the change it will have if u stick with the methods described in this video! I was in disbeleif when we started using this and my children began to listen!!

I agree with the other moms: Consistency, a firm voice, consequences with any destructive habit. I too have a 3 yr old little girl and when she gets out of line, I'm very firm with her. She cops an attitude I tell her to go to her room and stay there until I tell it's time to come out. Now every child IS indeed different, and you are able to know your daughters weaknesses that can her to cooperate. For every good deed, you get a privilage, snack, or just a reward in general (positive reinforcement) and for every bad deed you get a punishment of some sort like pat on the bottom, tap on the hand, a firm "no" or just time out (negative reinforcement). Either method will structure your child to grow up with values and morals. As Dr. Phil says, "YOU teach people how to treat you." So what you allow your daughter to do, you are teaching her it's okay to do it. Stand firm, Mom. You can do it. These are OUR kids; not the other way around. I have complete confidence in you.

I have an 18 month old boy who was doing the same thing. We just broke him of it. We tried everything from telling him no to spanking him, to letting him do it. That didn't work so every time he does it now we put our hands on his head like a basketball and put pressure on it so that he can not move his head. I know it sounds cruel but we had to do something, he did it to me one day and my tooth almost went completely through my lip. Time out seems to work as well. I am totally against smacking them on the head but there were a couple of times that we had to just to let him know that it hurts when he does that. I hated doing that but it worked. It only took 2 times of him hurting his self to realize it but that is what did it for me. My son is hardly abused. More spoiled than anything.

I have two boys who are four and two. My four year old has already went through that phase, and I think my two year old is just starting it. Really there isnt anything you can do that you probably havent already tried, but I will throw a few suggestions out there anyhow. For one, when she is in the middle of a nuclear meltdown..put her in the floor and let her throw it, dont talk to her or scold her or anything. Just completely ignore her (unless of course she is getting into something harmful) Children act out to get attention, and any attention to children in a lot of instances is good attention. Don't reward her by giving her what she is after. Once she realizes that no one is paying her mind, she will most likely calm down. Then get down on her level, on your knees and look her eye to eye. Try talking to her in a calm voice and explain to her that the hitting and head butting hurts mommy and hurts mommy's feelings aw well.
As far as getting into things...well I never did figure that one out. So we put chain locks on all of our closet doors and child proffed all cabinets and things of that nature. I did, however, find that leaving a small toy chest in every room helped detur some of the snooping. I hope this helps.

My son is 7 years old. When he was in the first grade we watched the 1-2-3 magic video. it works wonders. He isn't violent I just can't get him to listen sometimes! Or to get moving. He is slower then most grandpas. But I really like the 1-2-3 magic. At first you watch it and you are like yeah right!!! But it works!