Seeking Moms' Advice on Potty Training.

When I was potty training both of my children (1 girl and 1 boy) they wanted nothing to do with it or like you said they would sit on it and do nothing. As crazy as this sounds, it worked. We put the potty chair in the living room and they would sit on it when they were watching TV. I don't know if it's because they were relaxed and not really thinking about it and they finally went and realized what it's suppose to feel like or what. I hope this helps. Good Luck!!

Put the child in cloth training pants. Pullups and diapers do not feel wet when they are wet.

Take a day (maybe a friday or monday) off work and spend the days trainging your son. Stay home all day, no errands.. put him in the cloth traing pants. and keep putting him on the pot.

If he doesnt make any progress in a week or so.. then he isnot ready give up and try again later. Dont worry everyone gets trained by kindergarten.. In the big picture it is not a big deal.

Hi B.!

My son would go in his pull ups and wouldn't even bother telling me. I just put him in underwear! I took him to the store and choose Bob the builder, thomas train and various character underwear. I told him not to go in it...first 3 or 4 days we had a few accidents...he would pee etc but when he saw how wet he got and uncomfortable he stopped! It'll take a few days for your son to get used to the idea and you'll be doing quite a bit of cleaning but it's worth it! It hasn't been 3 weeks and my son is completely potty trained during the day...and he just turned 3! Hope this helps!

Hi,
My 4 year old would also hold it until after he got off the potty. I started pressing gently on his bladder just under his belly button and telling him I could feel that he had to go. I think that when I pressed he could feel a little bit more of an urge to go and he'd then go. I was totally out of ideas and this really worked. He often asks now for me to feel his bladder. It's turned into a game now. He was 4 in Sept. and wasn't totally trained until July. Maybe try this and if it doesn't work give him more time. All kids are different and he'll get it when he's ready. Good Luck!

I had the same trouble. My son did not get fully potty trained until after he turned 4. He did not want to go #1 until he learned he could stand up to do it. Then there was no stopping him. When he had to go #2 he would either hide in his room until he was done or he would hide behind furniture that it was hard to see him behind. If we did see him and asked him what he was doing he would tell us to go into the other room or go away. We tried bribing him with toys and candy. We tried a sticker chart, where he would get a sticker ever time he went. What ended up happening was whenever he went to hide, my husband or I would have to literally drag him into the bathroom and sit with him until he went. I know its frustrating but always encourage and praise him. Even if he doesn't do anything in the potty tell him it was a good try and maybe next time he'll be able to do it. It would help if there was someone else aside from yourself to help with him. Who does your child care. My sister in law said KinderCare was helping to get her son potty trained. That might be something for you to look into. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

Hi B., My son was 3 in July. I started a couple times before then, but he just wasn't ready mentally. Finally, one day I learned how important it was to him to be considered a "big boy" and not a baby. I explained to him that big boys don't wear pull ups or diapers. He of coarse wanted to wear the underwear, so when I would ask him to go try to go potty, if he fussed or argued I would just calmly say:"okay, then I guess I'll just have to put a diaper on you since babies wear them and babies go in their pants" He'd run to the potty every time to prove he's a big boy. Afterwards I'd give him a high five and remind him how much faster that was than mommy having to change a dirty pants. He still wears a pull up to bed at night. I'm not worried about that yet. I have family that had trouble with that growing up, so it might be genetics that his bladder is too relaxed during sleep to hold it. Anyway, I hope this helps. Like the other moms said, don't worry too much. It'll happen.
S.

I had the same problems, toys not working and accidents. But I started putting the potty in the living room and let him sit on it while watching a favorite cartoon or reading a book, just so he could be with us and take his mind off of it. (Later when he is comfy going, you take the toilet to your bathroom.)It didnt work for the longest time. SO I just forgot about it for a while and let him relax til he was more ready. Less stress for him and you! Finally I took him to Toys R Us and bought a penny gum machine and underwear. That was it, getting a gumball was the charm!

Potty training can be a tough job, but try to continue to keep it fun. You could even have a male influence show him how to stand up peeing and put some cheerios in the toilet so he'll know what to aim at, (because believe me, since my middle son started using the toilet I have had a super clean bathroom floor - LOL) My oldest son grew tired of the candy, but a sticker chart helped my oldest son and after he had no accidents for a week we gave him an award. Also the trick that helped my older son was taking him to buy 'big' boy underwear. The pull ups were like a diaper and he felt safe, but with the big boy underpants he felt it when he went the bathroom and didn't like it. It took a few days and extra laundry oh yea and tons of patience and encouragement, but we got through it. Boys usually take a bit longer. My oldest was about 3 and my middle son was between 3 1/2 & 4 when we was fully trained -- no accidents even at night!!! Good luck and it'll help tremendously if you are able to get whoever watches your son while you work to continue to do the same things that you are doing, consistency helps a lot.

Good luck!!!

Dear B.

Take him to pottty every 1 hour. Keep him with no pants . Start when you can do it(Like Sat-Sun). Next person has to continue it.

You will have to talk about it. Child's brain does amazing job.

Love C.

Hey B. I feel your frustration, my son is 31/2 and has only been potty trained since the middle of August. I really thought he would be going to preschool in a diaper. What I did because my son wanted nothing to do with the potty, he would not even sit on it. I bought a video called POTTY POWER, it has very catchy songs (you will be singing them trust me) but anyway it is geared toward older kids. I actually checked it out at the library, my son loved it so much I ordered it online. Just type in Potty Power Video and it will come up. Now, it still did not happen over night but he was finally willing to sit on the potty after about a week and a half. I played this video all day long and stopped asking him if he wanted to sit on the potty. After about a week or so I would ask if he wanted to go on the potty like the big kids in the video. I would also sing the songs all day and try to get him excited about the potty. I did not have to bribe him at all. One day he finally went all by himself. Trust me it will happen even though it does not feel like it.
Good Luck!!!!!

Hi B., My daughter is 28 months and was doing the same thing. I bought the book how to potty train in less than a day. It got me out of the slump and she was trained in about 4 hours. She still has accidents, of course, but it worked for me. I tried just putting her in panties, and I had urine all over the house for a week. I cleaned more messes than I care to remember. That's what worked for my first, but not for the stubborn one. Good luck