Seeking Mom's Who Have Lost a Child to Accidental Death

Dear S.,
I too am a mom of 6 children. 17yrs, 13 yrs., 9yrs., 2yrs,. one one the way in March. I lost a child almost three years ago at twelve years old. He would have been 16 yrs this year. I still fall apart when I think about him. He hung himself in my basement. I found him after 10 min. but it was too late. He was into them games some kids think it's playing to see how fast they pasted out or something. The stupid coroner said it was suiside according to thei tests so I guess I will never know for sure. I don't know if you would consider that an accident. I'm sorry about your baby. I could only imagine what you are going through. It's very hard from day to day.
A. W.

S.- I have been trying to find a survivor group for one of the families at my preschool. The first week of August one of the little ones in my preschool died in an ATV accident. She had been there for 3 1/2 years- basicaly grew up with my daughter (and several other children)She was old five years old. I can't even imagine the pain her family has endured already but, to make it worse for them their younger son still attends the preschool. I can see the pain in her eyes every time they come. I wish so baddly that I could help them but, I am at a loss. All of the teachers created a memory scrap book talking about the funny things their Angel did, our favorite memory, and cute stories. I personally wrote a letter to them..We taped this closed in a box hoping that some day they will be able to read it. I doubt this has helped your quest but, do you have any advice that I can give them? I definately want to know when your book comes out- Like I said I can't even imagine the pain, constant reminders, or the anger. I know what I went thru..what I still go thru when I see her prek graduation picture and how my heart sinks each time my daughter talks about her abscent friend.
Best of luck-H.

My husband died a couple of years ago and my girls attend a place called "The Sharing Place" here in Salt Lake. It is a non-profit grief support group for children and their families. You might consider contacting them for help. I don't know that they would release people's names, but they may let you have a flyer there to pass out or something like that.

Dear S., I am a mother of 4 beautiful children. I lost a child and can understand all the mothers pain. No she did not die of an accident persay. She was born with many birth defects that were not detected during ultrasounds. Her name was AnMarie and she was born 4-22-96 and left me to rest on 12-9-96. Although she had many health problems she was suppose to live. She died of a infection of the blood. I have never known love like I knew with her. Dont get me wrong I love all of my children dearly but she was definetly something speacil. I can still remeber when she was first born and the look on the Dr. faces. I immediately knew something was wrong with my baby. My then husabnd fainted when he saw everything that was wrong with her. I could hear the Dr.s and nurses whispering and discussing the diffrent things that were with her. After some time they wrapped her up and were on their way to bring me her. I did not want to see her. I did not want see my baby,I knew she was going to be deformed.But I happedned to catch a glimpse of her big brown eyes and nothing else in the world mattered. I was in love despite her many birth defects. We fought 7 hard months through many surgerys and five months in the hospital. I devoted my life to make sure that she knew she was loved and had a normal life as possible. I think that her life and death was for a very special purpose she cahnged me, my family, and everyone around her. Even though it wAS almost 10 years ago the pain will never leave me. I loved her so much and fought so hard. It was an accident to me because I was not ready for her to leave me. I would still give anything to hold her one last time. I know she will be waiting for me when my time comes.