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I have a 6 year old and when I was potty training her we had a hard time. She wet the bed till about 3 1/2 to 4. I would not give her anything to drink from as early as two hours before bedtime, if she woke up in the middle of the night I would take her straight to the potty. Eventually she just stopped. Don't know if any of this helps. Good Luck!

Since you say you are newly separated, I would think that this may be affecting your 5 year old. I know it's extra work, but I'd get a plastic liner or puppy pads, and put under the sheet on the bed, so that accidents aren't such a big deal. The hiding pjs worries me a bit as it tells me that your little one is ashamed of wetting the bed - which unfortunately exacerbates the problem by adding more pressure to them.

If this one sleeps well, maybe wake the when you go to bed to "try" to go - most will react positively to the cold toilet seat and go back to sleep afterwards very easily. Talk to your child to see what's worrying them and make sure they know you aren't upset at them for peeing the bed. Ask them not to hide their pj's, just t put them in the laundry basket and let you know. Make it matter of fact, no big deal.

It may be a reaction to something that's happened at school on that particular day, it could be that the child is just sleeping really soundly.

My one granddaughter had accidents until she was about 8 or 9. My daughter tried all of the above, and then when there was a depends ad on tv one time, Angelica said, "that's what I need for bedtime" and my daughter bought her some large pull-ups. Didn't need them for long, once the worry about wetting was gone, so was the wetting.

Good luck though, I know it's frustrating and hard with the extra laundry.

With your 2 year old, we always made a big deal of nanny/mummy making a tinkling sound in the toilet, and then asking the little one to do the same. Then we always flushed and waved "bye bye" to the pan as it flushed, LOL

Hope this helps

R.:)

Hi Kim This is A. and if you want your older son to stop peeing in the bed aty night time you need to make sure that he doesn't drink anything after a certain time and then make sure that he potties before he goes to bed and then try the cheerios game during the day time and you do that by putting cheerios in the toilet and having him aim at the O's to see if he can dunk them for each one that he dunk give him a prize and a piont sheet that lets him pick up something at the end of the week.

I know it sounds funny put that is a good way for him to get started.
And as for the baby start taking him to the bathroom with you and letting sit on the potty at the same time that you are and it will make him want to go to the potty in the chair instead of his pull-up if you do it every hour in a half or every two hours.

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Hi Kim,
We have been having the same problem with our 6 1/2 yr old daughter. She never started wetting the bed til this past December. We got her the Goodnights but those got costly so we went to Wal-mart and got a plastic cover for her bed and then to help with the wetting. We wake her up before we go to bed (at about 10 or 10:30) and take her to the bathroom. She goes to bed at 8 pm so that's 2 hours into her sleep. If we happen to wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom we take her also. She is such a heavy sleeper that most of the time she doesn't even remember that we take her to the bathroom. What we need to remember is that their bodies are growing so fast now and their bladders haven't caught up yet. It may take a while but for the past month we have had dry sheets and pjs every morning (knocking on wood about that LOL). It take patience and alot of work from you but in time you will wake up with a dry bed and a happy kid.
As for the potty training. I say wait til they are making signs that they are ready. I have 4 kids and 1 was trained at 1 1/2 and another not til he was almost 4 so it matters as to when they are ready. Don't push him, he will just fight you on it. Good luck with both and I hope it all works out for you.

I had one son that did this...by the age of 5 if they are still wetting the bed there might be something wrong. Talk to your peditrian and get him into a urologist. Hope this helps.
Thanks

My 5 1/2 yr old son has occasional accidents at night but they are getting better. He's a heavy sleeper and he used to sleep so soundly he didnt realize it had even happened. He's starting to get where he wakes up as soon as he feels it start to happen. Sometimes he can make it to the bathroom in time but sometimes he has a small 'leak'. We do like Erica A, we wake him up to go when we go to bed, and my husband wakes him up to go when he is getting up for work. Sometimes we hear him in the middle of the night. I've picked up that if I hear him Groan in his sleep (like he has a tummy ache) then he probably has to go but cant wake up. I or my husband will get up to take him potty. And like Erica said, he's gotten so used to it that he goes through the motions fine, but doesnt even remember he's been up during the night.
Also, we try to not make a big deal of any accidents, or show any annoyance if we have to change sheets and our son in the middle of the night. If we did, he is so sensitive he would worry so much about having an accident and feel so bad and embarassed. Once we got him assured that "it's just an accident, they happen, your a growing kid, they'll stop soon" you could see him visibly relax about it.
Now he's at the point that if he has one of the "little leaks" but doesnt get the bed wet, he will just go potty, change his jammies and underpants on his own and get back in bed without waking us.
And the waterproof bed liners/pads are wonderfull. Get two or three so you always have a fresh one to put on after an accident.

My 2 and 1/2 year old has recently been potty trained. She had only one accident durring the day in over 2 months, but the night was tough for us. We would make a big deal about going potty before bed and for the first 2 weeks, I would set my alarm clock every 4 hours and wake her up to have her go potty. Now she will wake up on her own and go in the middle of the night.

Please don't get mad at your child for peeing in the bed. It's NOT "his" fault. "He" can't help it. I know this from personal experiences of my own. Don't pick on your child for this. Your child will grow out of it. It may happen soon or it could take years. Be a support for your child and do what you can to help "him". Maybe your child is trying to deal with the seperation or maybe this is just a problem "he" will grow out of, but it doesn't matter. The reason for the hidden pjs is your child feels ashamed, and feels he has to hide this from you. Stop putting attention on the bedwetting.

As for potty training - practice makes perfect. You could make a chart and put stickers on it when your child pee pees or boo boos. I put 1 sticker for pee pee and 2 stickers for boo boo. Try different rewards. Keep reminding your child by asking every-so-often "do you need to go potty?"

Hope this helps.

K.,
As the mother of two boys, I feel your pain and have a mound of dirty laundry that probably matches yours! The short answer is that there is nothing you can do but wait for your son to outgrow bedwetting.

I say this, too, as having experienced both sides of this issue. I wet the bed until I was about 12 years old. I had numerous embarrassing episodes (sleepovers, summer camp) that I would have been happy to avoid. I slept so deeply as a kid that I just wouldn't wake up! My mother tried teasing and embarrassing me, but it simply wasn't something I could prevent. I wasn't trying to tick her off. (That came later!)

Both my boys wet the bed until around 5y/o. All you can do is manage the situation. Limit liquids at bedtime. Take him to the toilet before you go to bed. Place a waterproof pad on top of the fitted sheet so all you (or he) have to do in the middle of the night is remove the pad and change jammies.

As aggravating as all that laundry and bed making is, try not to make an issue of his bedwetting. He will outgrow it!

Hang in there,
E.