Does anyone have any suggestions on how to meet people? I know it's a strange question and unusual, because most average people have many, many friends and have no problem meeting people. But, sadly, I'm not one of those very lucky people and it's tearing me apart. I'm thinking maybe suicide is my only way out, because society tells you that you are a nobody without friends. So I guess I'm a nobody, so why live. Everybody tells me that I'm nice, friendly and they like the way I smile all the time. But when I try to reach out to them, I get no where. Can anyone help me? I desparately need it.
Dont ever feel that way. the number of friends you have does not make a person! You may only have 1 friend and that is enough. I am not in washingtonville but I would be more than happy to try and be a friend.
B.,
I think most of people feel isolated from others in some degrees. Especially, as moms, we don't have much time to socialize. Then when kids grow up, there's no excuse to do things with others. Ironically, when you're busy raising children, you have lots of chance to get to know other moms because of your children. Have you ever thought about joining some social group or maybe taking some lesson based on your interested? It seems like you're getting to focus on yourself that nobody likes you. If you shift your focus and think about what you can do for others, you'll find good people who are also caring others. Also that way of thinking itself generate more energy.
B., No matter how bad you might think things are, killing your self is not the answer. If you don't belong already, you should join a church or temple. They always have committees that are looking for people to volunteer their time and have social events throughout the year for people to gather. Some people have more friends then they know what do with and some only have 1 or 2 close friends. It is what you make of it. You should also talk to your husband and you should definitely seek professional help. Good Luck and stay positive.
Hi, B., I am from Goshen and I am fairly new to the area. I understand about how difficult it is to meet new people. First of all, I am so proud of you for reaching out and asking for help. I think that may be the most difficult thing to do. Recently a woman that I know comitted suicide. I wish that I had known that she needed help or someone to listen. I watched what this one devasting act did to her 2 grown children. They are left with this unconsolable grief. I would not want that for you or your children. Please email me so we can chat and talk more about things to do in our area.-A.
OMG honey, please don't commit suicide!! Even if you can't make friends right away you still have your 4 children whom I'm sure you are the world to. Even though they are grown children they still need you. I have never heard that you are not worth anything without friends! I have never heard "society" say that!! How about volunterering your time to a local charity, or joining a church group, or and at the very least, seek professional help. Suicide is the most selfish act imaginable. Think about all the people who will hurt immensly if you left this earth. Lack of friends is not the end of the world!! Pm me on her anytime. I always check my emails and we can be pen pals if you'd like. I'm a great listener!
Please be strong! My heart goes out to you!
How about taking a part time job(if you don't already work) or volunteering your time someplace. There are plenty of hospitals in the area who would love to have your help, the library takes volunteers also. This way if you don't find anyone that you will call your best friend you will doing something nice and you will be able to socialize to some extent. Even starting a hobby. I have 2 small children but before them I moved up here and joined a few clubs...garden club, Ladies AOH,and even took some dance and knitting classes to meet people. I now love to knit but wish I had the time and as for my dance classes that will also have to wait till I can find the time. Now you have time so enjoy yourself! Good Luck.
K. SAHM of 2 1/2, 1 1/2 & one on the way :)
Oh I hope you are kidding about the suicide comment. Have you tried joinging any local groups? going to a local church(if you are religious)? What are your interests? How long have you lived in Washingtonville?
B.,
I don't get a chance to read this every day. But something drew me to read it (I am sure it was God!). The first thing I can tell you is never give up HOPE. It got me through years of being single and not having a husband or children. I had plenty of friends, but not the family of my own that I always wanted. I am now 45 and have been married for 5 years. (so I was 40 before I got married!) I have a beautiful baby girl who is about to turn 23 months(I got pregnant finally after 2 miscarriages and many failed attempts!). I also took on 4 stepdaughters and it was the hardest thing I have ever, ever done! I feel that we all have a good relationship now, but it took years of praying for Jesus's heart. That is what got me to it and through it all - my FAITH and HOPE. Please pray for Jesus to come into your heart right now. Accept him as your saviour and things will begin to get better right now. Feel free to e-mail or respond to me so we can discuss. I also, would be your friend. One of the greatest commandments from God as told by Jesus is to LOVE your neighbor. You are my neighbor - I live in Campbell Hall, NY. You are prayed for right now. May God Bless you and your children and your soul. May you have hope and feel his love as you read this and all of the e-mails you have recieved. Believe me when I say all of the responses you recieve are heartfelt and messages through us from God. Believe in a higher power and a purpose in your life. Through you many people can learn. Get up and start thinking more positively. I would also like to recommend a book: "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. It is amazing and teaches us all to be very positive thinkers. Check it out and also understand that life is what you make of it. Take action, join a church. Take baby steps if you need to.
God bless you on your journey. Feel free to e-mail me directly at ____@____.com
Suicide is not the way out!!! There are plenty of things you could do. Join some local clubs, volunteer. Meals on wheels is very deperate for help. Maybe you can do that. (if you drive)there are plenty of ederly people out there that just need someone to talk to. YOU CAN make a difference! Christian partners outreach are always in need of help. They help people in need by delivering clothes and furniture and toys for the kids. Volunteer at the local hospital. Anything but don't commit suicide!!! Don't worry about what society says, do what is in your heart. People worry too much about what others think. Stay strong and hang in there. Things will work out just fine if you apply yourself. Good luck!
Hi B.,
I just came across your post again as I was flipping through my mamasource pages. I just wanted to check in and see how you are feeling. I hope you are doing better and that you have been able to find some good things in your life to help you feel more positive and better. Just wanted you to know that I am still thinking of you and praying that you are doing better.
M.
