Seeking Counselor / Psychologist to Help Answer 6 Year Old's Questions

My children were younger when we divorced and were first given our Protective Order - I told the kids things age appropriate....I reminded them that when they made poor choices, I put them in time out....then explained that Daddy was a good man but he had made some very poor choices so, the judge, who is like a mommy/daddy to grown-ups and in charge, decided that daddy had to be put in time-out and since he made so many poor choices ( I tried not to ever use 'good/bad') the judge put him in permanent time out (his rights were terminated)....it worked well with them although the comments and questions from teachers etc did cause some issues....he passed away a couple of years ago and my kids are now in their teens....they know some about what happened to cause the termination but will never know the entire thing.....as to what is best for your daughter, you know that better than anyone - trust your gut...........I will be thinking of you...

We have had a WONDERFUL councelor that my almost 15yr old daughter has been going to, when needed, since she was 4 yrs old. Her name is Jodi Hassler and her office is near Legacy and 121.
214/543-4912
5850 Town and Country Blvd. #1201
Frisco, TX
She has been a constant in my daughter's life. I left her dad when she was 4 wks old and have since remarried. Jodi has helped her through so much. Good luck and feel free to contact me.

My Bible Study leader at Prestonwood on Wednesdays is a wonderful counselor. I asked her for a business card today so I could answer you.

Kleina Fellemende
Counseling and Life Couaching
6136 Frisco Square Blvd
Frisco, TX 75034
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Starting with the school counsellor is a good suggestion. That's the environment where your daughter is going to spend a lot of her time for the next 12 years, so it's important for her to be able to adjust well there. Not every school counsellor works well with every child, so ask your lawyer if there are any CASA workers (Court Appointed Special Advocates) that your child can counsel with. These people are specifically trained to talk to children from divorce situations of all kinds.
Good luck!

J H,
I'm sorry that you are going through this difficult time. You and your family are in my prayers. I don't know of a psychologist, however, it's very important to be honest with your child and not to put your feelings towards your spouse on your daughter. You can be honest and simple, right now mommy and daddy aren't getting along and we need time apart. Divorces can be ugly, most important is to let your daughter know she is loved by both. If you don't want to say anything about daddy, don't, let him tell her he loves her.
God Bless!

J H
I started with the school counselor. I live in carrollton and my son was 7. The school counselor was a great help to him and since he had meetings with her he is much better. Now he is almost 10 and life is good and he also knows that help is available outside of just mom and now stepdad. The plus to this is that it was free no charge to health insurance or copays, no missing work or school. A friend of mine was also referred to an outside counselor by her sons school counselor because they thought her boys need more in depth and family counseling. So my advice is to start with the school counselor.

http://www.cacplano.org/pscommunityres.htm

Someone at the link above should be able to help you find a good resource for these questions. It might be helpful to set up a few counseling sessions for just you, or even you and your daughter, to discuss some of these issues. Good luck.