How have you coped when your child wanted to quit an activity they've been involved in for years? It seems like such a waste, but then I wonder if it was only for me. He wants to quit 4-H and Scouts. He's still involved with band and cross country so he's doing things to stay active.
Thanks to everyone who replied to my query. We decided he would maintain his membership in case he changes his mind. He was just stressed with school and all. Now that marching band and cross country season are over things are less stressful. It's kind of nice not to have to be somewhere EVERY Tuesday - lol.
My husband was in scouts almost until his age and said he then realized it was considered dorky so he quit. THis is from his fellow peers. Maybe that is why. I think it is good for boys but I can see his point of view.
Just ask him why.
I don't know how to ease your worries but all i can say is just let him make the decision. He sounds like a very well rounded young man and the fact that he does extra activites at all is something to be proud of. The way kids are coming up these days the only activity they are into is video games. Pat yourself on the back for raising him right and let him feel free to make the decisions from here on out. As long as he makes responsible decisions what more can you ask for?
Have you found out why he wants to quit? He may just be overloaded though. I went to a magnet school and the work alone is alot. Much more than other schools. He is at the age where I think he can choose what he is really interested in. Perhaps he wants to focus more on what he really likes. It wasn't a waste even if he does quit. He learned all kinds of things through 4-H and Scouts, I'm sure, that he will carry on with him his whole life. I wouldn't worry too much. I would ask him why he's made the decision and if it seems to be a reasonable response- I would suggest that you support him. This will be easier on you and also let him know that you trust him to make smart decisions in his life. Best wishes!
I think I'd worry if he wanted to quit EVERYTHING, but maybe he's just trying to focus on what is important to him. I say, let him do it.
Let me tell you at this age if he is still active and wants to do things out side of his room you are doing good. Mine just wanted to stay in his room so i had to make him go outside. around this age they love to eat sleep and drink just like when they where little (growth spurt). Ask him why he wants to quit maybe he just wants to have alittle me time.
it's not a waste. leaving an activity may open up new oppurtunites for your child to find what he's passionate about. my only requirement for my kids is that they finish there current season or committment, if they don't want to sign up for a new season-that's up to them. let him branch out or chill out...as long as he's got something to keep him busy & out of trouble.
