Seeking Advice from a Mom with Boys

Hi M. I have just learned something that my sons 9th grade spanish teacher does and I love the idea. When a child id heard being mean to another they are then announced to the class that the have to give 4 fuzzies to the person they were being mean to. Example a boy said shut up to a kid and the class erupted screamming 4 fuzzies, 4 fuzzies. The teacher made the boy say 4 nice things about the child he said shut up to like he said he has nice shoes and nice eyes. It makes the person being insulted feel better and makes the bullier find nice things about that person. If need be ask your sons teacher to try using the same technique in her class with all kids. Please let me know if this helps. If you want quick action have him write those fuzzies on paper and you give it to his teacher to give to the other child. Good luck.

as a single mother of two boys 8 and 3 i know how you feel. My 8 yr old has add and adhd. He also is very popular and gets into fights at school. Ive notice that if he gets into trouble at school it is best to get him and the child that he had a problem with and talk to the both of them. This gives your son the chance to apoligize and to see that even at school or outside of the home that he cant act out.Boys are just more outgoing and seem to have more trouble with other boys their same age. It must be a guy thing.

I really don't think that lecturing works at this age. He doesn't understand the severity of "You have dissapointed your parents".
Find his currency, playstation, going out with his friends, tv whatever. and take it away from him. When he can start behaving like you would like him to then he can earn those things back.
The bullying is something that needs to be nipped in the bud now, because the longer it goes on with no recourse the worse it will get. for your family and the kid who he is beating up.

good luck!

Just for future advice if you'd like...I had the same problem with my step son... And I actually had the principal of the school give him swats every time he bullied someone at school..(of course I was there)...But it worked, I think it was something with the school environment cause I could get on to him at home and it did no good...After two times of the principal giving him swats he was a perfect student in school he ended up being the bully victims best friend...

I too am having the same problem with my 6 year old and we have taken away all priveleges ie TV, toys, Trick or treating on Halloween, but nothing seems to work if you find anything useful let me know

what about the school punishing him. instead of recess he stays inside and does work. keep him from his friends maybe that would impact him. i have three boys to. 12,9,6
i always take away what is most important, going outside riding their bike,wii,playstation with my oldest it is his phone. maybe he is acting out for other reasons. will he talk to you? is he jealous of someone at school?? not feeling like he fits in. i have to pry my oldest to talk.
good luck....